Women complain that there are fewer and fewer real men around. And where do they come from? A real man needs to be brought up. Moreover, to educate from an early age.
In order for a man to grow from a boy, it is not necessary to initially raise him as a girl. And the question is not at all about not feeling sorry for him or not buying him nice clothes. However, there are very important differences in the upbringing of boys.
- A man must be raised by a man. Ideally, a father. By example. Because the boy is copying his father's behavior. Words do not matter here, he will act like his father. Mom, look at your husband, do you want your son to be the same? If the father is not involved in the upbringing, the boy should have another significant adult male. Find such a person as early as possible and introduce the boy into the social circle. It could be a grandfather, a coach, a family friend. Only approach the choice of this person as responsibly as possible.
- A man should be responsible for his actions. From an early age, you need to see the consequences of your actions, and take responsibility for them. Starting from a candy eaten at the wrong time to choosing a university and a life partner. Parents, do you allow your child to take responsibility for their actions?
- The ability to limit oneself is one of the main things in the life of a real man. Ability to endure and sacrifice. The scheme of raising a son (for dad) - “The best for mom. Because she's a girl. Then the cat - because he is helpless and depends on us. And then you and me. Because we are men."
- The psychological age of sex determination is 3 years. Starting from this age, you need to constantly say to your son - "you are a Man!" And no later than from this age to accustom to the position "you must!" You need to treat your son like an adult. This does not mean that he does not need to be pampered, undead and kissing - it is very necessary! This means that from this age, family plans are discussed with the child (within reasonable limits, of course) - how to spend the weekend, what kind of animal to get and why, the choice of clothes and important purchases, visits and a place for a picnic are discussed.
- You have to let your son make mistakes. Fall and get dirty. And then get up and do your own laundry. There is no need to punish - you need to give the opportunity to correct your mistakes. A boy (and any man until old age) is always a researcher. He studies the boundaries of the world and expands them. A man should be mobile, restless. He is the driving force behind humanity. And a woman is a stable and preserving force. Allow the boy to make mistakes and correct his mistakes himself - with your imperceptible hint.
