Many loving women strive to help their men. But in response, they often hear reproaches, irritability and insistent demands not to interfere. This is due to the fact that women, from the point of view of men, are doing absolutely the wrong thing. And thus they only interfere.
Instructions
Step 1
Take a moment for a serious conversation. It is best for a man to be in a good mood at this moment and be in a mood for a constructive conversation. Men are more likely to have a conversation after a hearty lunch or dinner, after a glass of wine, relaxing after a working day or before going to bed. Find out his problem, what gnaws at him and haunts him.
Step 2
When speaking, try to listen more than talk. When laying out his problems to you, it is important for a man to speak out, express all his arguments and reasoning. Listen to his words, try to grasp the essence of the situation that has arisen. If something is not clear, ask gently and unobtrusively, trying to choose the moment when your loved one finishes his thought. By choosing this style of conversation, you will win his attention and trust and will not provoke possible negative reactions.
Step 3
Having clearly understood what kind of result the man wants to achieve, offer him your options and ways to achieve the goal. In no case do not insist on your own! Try to argue your views, give logical arguments, pay attention to the facts. For men, this way of thinking is closer. As a result, he will see in you a comrade and like-minded equal in intellect, and not an emotionally illogical person.
Step 4
If a man can open up to you in his problem and see you as an ally, then it is quite possible that he himself will ask for specific help. If for some reason this does not happen, ask him: "How exactly can I help?" Then there will be an opportunity with real deeds to provide significant support to your man.
Step 5
Do not despair if in some situations you really cannot help your loved one with anything useful. It is in your power to create all the conditions for him to solve the problem on his own. Free him from household chores, forget about your whims until better times, surround him with attention and care, create an atmosphere of comfort and coziness around him. Believe me, in many cases this will prove to be an invaluable help.
