You can often hear complaints from women that a man absolutely does not want to help around the house, and all household chores fall on fragile female shoulders. There may be several reasons for this behavior. Perhaps the woman herself decided to take care of her husband, or the man from childhood was not used to housework. And the main trump card of his unwillingness to help from the lips of a spouse sounds like this: "I earn money, and you do the housework." If you are not satisfied with this state of affairs, then the situation needs to be changed.
To choose the right strategy of behavior, you first need to figure out who or what discourages the stronger sex from helping around the house. After all, a man can perfectly cope with many household chores: take out the trash, wash the dishes, vacuum. So, the main mistakes are:
- The man does not do the job as professionally as you (dad, relative, or one of your friends) would do. Accordingly, in most cases, a woman makes remarks, which is regarded by a man as nit-picking.
- Your spouse may have plans (reading a book, watching football, etc.), but you are asking for urgent help. A man is ready to help, but if the situation repeats itself regularly, it starts to annoy him very much.
- You want help while hinting, "We're out of bread." It doesn't mean anything to your husband. If you want help - tell him directly.
- And in no case should you blackmail with sex. It will help only at the beginning of a married life, and then it will get pretty boring, and your husband will find a replacement on the side.
- … Distribute household chores and strictly follow this order. If your husband has not bought food, then everyone is left without dinner - there is no food, there is nothing to cook from! If I forgot to put dirty things in the wash, then there is nothing to wash! Be firm and patient.
- Flattery. There are things your man can do better than you, for example, he cooks deliciously. Tell him about it and ask him to cook, assuring that no one cooks better than him. And do not forget to sincerely admire the culinary masterpiece and also thank your spouse.
- … You should not blame your husband on all matters at once. Start in stages. Today is one simple matter, and tomorrow complicate the "assignment" a little.
The desire to change the situation in the house may cause disapproval from your husband, but be firm in the decision you make. Most importantly, don't forget that praise and gratitude are the surest tactics for your success. Love your husband and let him become the rightful owner of the house.
