Most of the advice on how to improve your family life boils down to adjusting to each other when you're already married. We'll start with something else: even before the groom takes you down the aisle, ask yourself - do you need it? Family is a good thing, but building a family life is only worthwhile with the right person for you. This is important, since the family is, ideally, for life, and when the time for the first romance is over, no dull irritation should appear in its place.
Instructions
Step 1
Pay attention to how the potential groom willingly fulfills your requests and is ready to meet your desires. If, as a rule, he “forgets” about your requests, turns them into a joke, makes excuses instead of doing what you ask for, think about how long you will endure this attitude towards yourself. that a man can be changed. In fact, in the absence of a man's desire to change, this is a dead-end path.
Step 2
Respect means following certain rules in relation to each other. At home, a ban on swear words is welcomed: everything that you want to say can be expressed without swearing and "strong expressions". Energetically, these words have a bad effect on people and relationships, even if they do not directly relate to the interlocutor. In a quarrel, you should also not allow yourself to call each other names. The quarrel will pass, and the epithets that your spouse awarded you, and which you allowed yourself, may never be forgotten.
Step 3
Loyalty is an essential element of a strong family. Some families practice the so-called "open" marriage, when neither husband nor wife is faithful to each other, sometimes one of the spouses cheats, and the other quietly puts up with it. It is usually more dependent, weak, vulnerable, and often socially unprotected who is reconciled. He reconciles himself because he loves, feels his dependence, is afraid to be left alone, is afraid of being left without money, believes that he cannot cope with raising children alone. A woman is more likely to be reconciled than a man, although situations are not uncommon when a man is reconciled. Infidelity separates spouses and forever undermines trust between them. Even if family life continues after the betrayal, psychologically it is no longer the life of two halves of each other, but the life of two people alone.
Step 4
Care. When a relationship is just starting to develop, romance and passion are very strong, and caring for a loved one is perceived as part of a romantic relationship. Over the years, the relationship between spouses is balanced, they often say "there was love, now it is a habit", and it seems that the majority agrees that this is normal. In fact, if the touching concern for each other persists, then love will also persist. Caring in both serious things and in small things is that eternal fire that will not let love cool down.
Step 5
Family life cannot always go without a hitch, from time to time there are some disagreements. In such cases, psychologists advise not to hush up the problem, but to discuss it with your spouse. If it is customary in your family to share emotional experiences and listen to each other, all problems will find their solution, and the spouses will only become closer and dearer to each other every year.
