The issue of mutual understanding worries almost all couples, without exception. And it doesn't matter if you have been together for several months or years. The problem of mutual understanding between a man and a woman is key in conflicts and often leads to parting. But is it really not invented a reasonable and effective way to learn to understand each other?
If, for example, you meet an elderly couple who have spent more than a dozen years together, you will involuntarily ask the question: "How did you manage it?" - and get a completely simple answer.
Instructions
Step 1
Respect each other. Yes, this is where it all starts. If you put your own interests ahead of your partner's interests, then don't expect them to treat you with understanding. If you have lived together for a long time, the problem of mutual respect can only become more and more urgent. To do this, everyone needs to have their own personal space. Having your own "world" of interests, you automatically respect the "world" of interests of your loved one. You develop yourself, do not interfere with each other, but on the contrary help to improve.
Step 2
Listen to each other. A familiar scene: she talks about her household chores, he talks about problems at work. No one takes seriously the difficulties of another, considering their own paramount. Remember, if you are together, there should not be "all the more important." You should hear each other, try to understand your loved one in any matter.
Step 3
After each conversation, listen to yourself - is there any residue left; and whether you were inattentive and did not notice something; maybe you should say something else to your loved one? Do not leave "white spots" (or vice versa - "black holes") in your communication. It must develop, live and renew itself every second.
Step 4
Understand that the person next to you is not you. He is a completely different being, both physically and spiritually. If you like, this is a separate Cosmos. When you accept this, you will turn 180 degrees and see how amazing this person is. He is completely different from you! You will listen to what he says, be interested in him, rejoice for his success, you will want to be more gentle and caring. Try it and you will definitely succeed.
