Divorce is often not easy to bear - this is true for both women and men. But we must try to survive unpleasant events and at the same time remain a calm, self-confident person.
Instructions
Step 1
During a divorce, people behave differently - for example, they try to simply endure this event or completely take their time so that they do not have the strength to think about the unpleasant. Most try to completely immerse themselves in taking care of children, in work, and delve into a hobby. This is wrong and even dangerous - a person simply stops paying attention to all other areas of life. But there are many other activities that should not be neglected.
Step 2
Sometimes the problem is that when parting, one of the spouses tried in every possible way to humiliate the other, at every opportunity he reminded of annoying mistakes, unpleasant situations that, in general, happen in everyone's life. As a result, a person can form a view of himself as a creature completely flawed, unlucky and useless. To prevent divorce from leaving deep wounds, the first step is to raise self-esteem. You should not dwell on the opinion of only one spouse, moreover, the former.
Step 3
Most of the time, feelings of resentment and guilt interfere with divorce. Divorce can be called a fairly common phenomenon, but in society it is more often condemned than accepted calmly, whatever the reasons. The opinions of others, who often do not consider it necessary to hide it, can make the divorced person's experiences even more painful. Better to ignore other people's words.
Step 4
Feelings of guilt and resentment are a position of weakness, a victim. Healing should begin with yourself. Once you become aware of the constantly emerging feelings of resentment or guilt, you take a step towards gaining control over your feelings. Learn to take responsibility for your own actions and decisions on your own - this will help you not only to survive all the unpleasant moments of your life situation with honor, but also to remain a strong and cheerful person.
