Young children look defenseless when dealing with adults, but not with their peers. Here, the baby speaks on an equal footing and can show his leadership qualities, for example, take away a toy. What is left to do in this case for a child who is quiet and trouble-free in character, ready to obey the whims of his peer, is up to the parents to decide. After all, it is the parents who have to teach the child to defend themselves.
Instructions
Step 1
Children get their first experience of communicating with peers already in kindergarten. Therefore, it is at this time that it is important that the child learns to defend himself, otherwise he will be ridiculed throughout the entire period of preschool education. Explain to the child that he himself has the right to choose who to give toys to, who to communicate with, who to help, etc. If his things are taken away from him for strength, then here he must clearly show his offender that this state of affairs does not suit him. To do this, teach your child to give verbal rebuff, such as: “It is not customary in our family to take things away from each other. If you want to play with my toy, then ask me for it, I will definitely give it to you for a while."
Step 2
In the case when words do not help to resolve an unpleasant situation, and the abuser of your child starts to fight, then the psychological method of "isolation" will help here. Let your child invite several children to play with him, and they agree among themselves not to take the offender into the game. It will be a severe test for a fighter to become an outcast among his comrades. If an unpleasant atmosphere reigns in the kindergarten, and fights and sharp words about your child have become a tradition, then it is better to transfer him to another child care institution.
Step 3
In no case, do not let your child understand that he is a slobber. A child in his family, his usual environment, is looking for support and wise advice on how to act in a given situation. Encourage the baby, inspire him that he is the best baby in the world, and he will definitely succeed. Show him films where a protagonist of his age finds himself in a similar situation and tries to get out of it as a winner through trial and error.
Step 4
If the child is very shy, take him to training or to special games for communication between children, which are conducted by psychologists. There, experts will help him understand himself and teach him how to respond correctly to offenders.
Step 5
A child can get even more self-confidence in sports clubs (judo, sambo, taekwondo). There he will get to know his like-minded people, he will have a circle of friends, and he will no longer react so “sharply” to the grievances of his enemies. After all, physically he will be able to fight them back, and morally, since he will know that he is not alone, and his real friends are waiting at training.
