Many women have been living in failed marriages for years, staying in an unloved company for fear of change. The result of a wrong approach to life is somatic diseases, neuroses, a state of depression, which is difficult to get out of. They feel unhappy, but they keep making the same mistakes. Sometimes a woman simply does not realize that there are things that she should not put up with, is not obliged to. Realizing this, she can drastically change her life for the better and become happy and successful.
What kind of behavior cannot be tolerated
If you allow a man to go beyond what is permissible, then in the end he will think that everything is possible for him. He ceases to respect a woman who agrees to everything, does not have her own opinion and is not able to resist. A lady may think that if you do everything that the man says, he will not go anywhere. In fact, it turns out the opposite. a woman should have a share of independence, her own character, but use it in moderation.
What you can't put up with:
- Late. Yes, each of us periodically comes to the meeting at the wrong time. There may be good reasons for this, but there are people for whom being late is their natural state. A man should come to a meeting with a girl on time, without making his woman wait. This is a tribute to the lady. It doesn't matter how much you know each other. Normal people understand that it is unpleasant to wait, so they try to build their movements in such a way as to come to the meeting at the appointed time. This is especially true at the beginning of a relationship.
- Breach of agreement. If you promised something, do it, or don't promise. The man who breaks the agreement will not change. A person who does this shows his attitude towards a person. The woman in this case is in the background for him. In addition, he demonstrates himself as an unreliable partner who is capable of failing at any moment.
- Flirting with others. You went on a date, and the man at the same time shows signs of attention to strangers. This is unpleasant for you, because in this way he shows that he is not very interested in you, and communication with the female sex is in the first place for him. A man who respects a lady will not flirt with others, especially if your relationship is just beginning. This is respect for your companion. Such behavior can speak of duplicity, deceit, especially if he confessed his love to you. Either he is a womanizer, and living with such a person will not be easy, because there is a risk of betrayal, and constant.
- Inflicting pain. Pain can be moral and physical. In any case, you cannot put up with it. Moral violence can crush a person, lower self-esteem. Living in a long relationship with such a man, you lose yourself, become a weak-willed victim. Physical pain should not be tolerated either. Sooner or later, this can turn into real violence with a threat to life and health. If the man hits you at least once, leave. He feels his strength and applies it to the weaker one.
What to look for
There are still many points in interpersonal relationships that should not be ignored.
Regular alcohol consumption is addiction. If a man cannot contain himself, do not hope that he will change and you will be able to re-educate him. There are women who believe that they can correct their partner's behavior, make him stop drinking or use illegal substances. It's a delusion. Living with an alcoholic is hell, you cannot voluntarily go into such a relationship, losing yourself, destroying your personality next to a person who himself does not seek to fight his addiction. Many women live for years with alcoholics, justifying their behavior, suffering themselves and making their children suffer. If a man does not want to change, leave, you have the right to happiness, so that there is a worthy person next to you.
Caught in a lie or suspect deception, you know - this is no coincidence. He will always lie to you. Lying in the first days of acquaintance is an important sign that you need to stay away from a person.
Cancellation of dates. If this happened once, then it's okay, the circumstances are different. But if he does it regularly, then there are more important things for him than you. He may prefer you to meet friends or even another girl.
He does not introduce himself to friends when he meets, does not want to introduce you to them. This is an important indication of how interested he is in you. If a man wants a serious relationship, he is not afraid to introduce his lady to friends and relatives. Think, perhaps, he already has a girlfriend or a wife, and he just hides you.
You can not put up with betrayal. Men justify themselves with polygamy, but in fact this is a manifestation of disrespect for their girlfriend. A guy who has allowed himself this once is likely to continue to change in the future.
The importance of financial relationships
You can pay the bill in half, especially if your relationship is just beginning and you don't know if you need this man. You can pay if, for a good reason, he did not have money with him, everyone can have such situations. But if this happens all the time, you don't need such a man. He does not seek to please his lady, to show his generosity. In fact, he is only interested in getting personal pleasure. If a man asks for a loan at the beginning of a relationship, this should be alarming. You are not yet close enough to help him.
In any relationship, a woman must first of all feel respect for herself. If you do not feel this, leave, you will not be happy with such a person.
