Family relationships are built on the constant interaction of spouses and children with each other. Of course, in a life together, one cannot do without quarrels, conflicts and a showdown. It happens that the accumulating misunderstanding of partners leads to a crisis.
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Step 1
Crises occur in a person's life from early childhood, and living together with a partner in marriage is no exception - only now crises are already overtaking two people. However, it would be a mistake to regard the crisis as something absolutely negative: a crisis is a search for a new path of development, when the old type of relationship has already exhausted itself. Therefore, if partners cope with the crisis, this adds new meaning to their lives, they often begin to love and respect each other even more. When partners do not want or no longer have the strength to cope with the next crisis, they disagree.
Step 2
It is very simple to identify a crisis: if you are no longer satisfied with your communication, sexual relations, if you constantly quarrel, blame each other and do not know how to overcome this state, then you definitely have a crisis in family relations. Psychologists identify many causes of family crises and the events that lead to them, breaking them down into certain periods.
Step 3
The crisis of two years is a rather dangerous time for marriage. On the one hand, the spouses are already so accustomed to each other that they are gradually beginning to take off their pink glasses. They understand that strong love, feelings of intoxication with a partner, initial passion are gone, and many take this for a loss of love. On the other hand, people have not lived together long enough to begin to appreciate this union, to adhere to the connection with another person. Against this background, quarrels often occur, especially if the husband or wife has a different value system or one of the partners already wants a child, and the other is not yet ready for this, if they have different concepts about each other's careers. Anything can become a reason for quarrels. And there is not far before the divorce.
Step 4
The next crisis line is 3-4 years of living together. By this time, most families have a child, so all the mother's strength is concentrated on him. She physically does not have enough time to look after her husband, even to devote enough time to him in the evenings. If a woman does not allow a man to feel like a father, a helper, a strong personality, then he withdraws from the family, feels his worthlessness and uselessness. In addition, the child assumes an additional load on the psyche of both spouses. He not only brings joy, but also requires expenses, care, takes all the time of the parents. Not all of them survive this period in a peaceful mood.
Step 5
A crisis of 6-7 years of marriage occurs when there is relative calmness and stability in the family. Children are growing up, parents are making a career, everything seems to be great. However, calmness also does not always have a beneficial effect on family relationships, especially if it is associated with the intimate sphere. During this period, there is so much saturation with the body and habits of partners in bed that nothing new happens. I want variety, passion, a fresh perspective on relationships. During this period, there are many betrayals, both spontaneous and quite planned. This allows you to bring variety, romance to the sexual sphere, again to feel desired. If the other partner understands and forgives the spouse, the crisis can be overcome. But if the betrayal still resonates with pain in his heart for a long time, then a break occurs.
Step 6
The crisis of 11-13 years old often coincides with a crisis of middle age, so if a person is not satisfied with his achievements, this can result in dissatisfaction with his soul mate. At this time, many begin to assess themselves in a new way, look for new hobbies, including among other people. In addition, spouses have been married for so long and have seen so much about each other that it is not easy for them to wish something good for a husband or wife.
Step 7
The crisis of 20 years is also called the "empty nest syndrome." If all these years the spouses lived together only because of the children, suffered misunderstandings and troubles so that the children would not get upset, then at this moment there comes a kind of reckoning for unresolved conflicts. The children have already grown up, they are starting an independent life. At this moment, the parents have no one to hold on to, and they disperse after so many years together.
