Marriage is not only a union of two loving people. It is also the unification of families on the part of the bride and groom. Acquaintance will happen sooner or later anyway, and often a number of requirements are presented to the groom. How to get to know the bride's parents correctly?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, the groom needs to take care of his appearance. No matter what style he adheres to, clothes should be clean, tidy and ironed. There is no need to wear a classic suit if it is not a permanent item of the groom's wardrobe. Subsequently, it will be clarified anyway. Therefore, you should not pretend to be someone who the groom is not.
Step 2
Don't go overboard with perfumes and deodorants. Better to limit yourself to body hygiene and cleanliness of clothes. If you really want, you can add a couple of drops of your favorite perfume, just so that it is unobtrusive.
Step 3
Do you need gifts and pleasant surprises for parents? If there is such an opportunity, then they are needed. It is better to first ask what the bride's mother loves. What if she is allergic to flowers or doesn't like sweets? To avoid an unpleasant embarrassment, it is worth preparing in advance. In the first meeting, it is better to limit yourself to flowers or sweets for the mother of the bride. You shouldn't give expensive gifts, but it's awkward to come empty-handed either.
Step 4
You can bring something baked by the groom's mother, and thus win over not only to yourself, but also to your mother. In absentia, they will begin to respect her and will kindly tune in to the upcoming acquaintance. You should not give a gift to the father of the family. This is considered bad form. He will feel embarrassed and owed something to his future son-in-law. The father should feel comfortable in his home and be the head of the family.
Step 5
You should not complain to your parents about your bride, it is better to express gratitude for what a wonderful daughter they brought up, if so. This approach will endear parents to the groom.
Step 6
Also, on the very first day of acquaintance, you should not burden your future relatives with something. To ask for something, to consult. It is better to leave it for another time, when a mutual connection is established, and a trusting relationship is established.
Step 7
To inspire the confidence of the bride's parents, you need to tell the truth about yourself, of course, without unnecessary details. Watch the reaction of your bride, future father-in-law and mother-in-law, and stop in time, if necessary. It is better to be yourself during the conversation. Show your best sides without too much bragging.
Step 8
Answer questions of future father-in-law and mother-in-law. If there is no unambiguous answer to some question, then you need to say so: “I don’t know. Not decided yet. Thinking about it”- this is better than blabbering nonsense, by which the groom will be judged as a person. It is a well-known fact that during a stressful situation, a person may not understand what he is talking about, then he may not even remember the conversation itself. While those around him resent him, not knowing that he was worried.
