It often happens that people who seem to sincerely love each other, at some point notice the cooling of relations. Over time, they may even state that love is gone. And then they either part, or continue to live together by inertia, for the sake of the children, in order to avoid the gossip of others. However, mental dissatisfaction and emptiness, as a rule, sooner or later still make themselves felt.
True love cannot fade away - this is the truth from which one should start when analyzing relations with a loved one. Unfortunately, infatuation is often mistaken for love, which just tends to pass after some time. Well, if the period of passion did not end with the creation of a family and the birth of children, then people can part quite painlessly. And it's worse when they are held together by the circumstances. There is no love, people are forced to live together - all this leads to conflicts, quarrels, betrayals.
Try to understand what exactly connects you with your loved one, what feelings you have for each other. Remember that true love simply is, it arises as a result of the affinity of two souls, or even their merger - loving spouses feel each other on an energetic level. At the heart of enthusiasm are exclusively external qualities - beauty, character traits, financial situation, etc. That is, everything that is temporary, transient. Beauty gradually fades or becomes boring, the financial situation may change or cease to suit (you want more), the character will begin to irritate. All that previously attracted, disappears or ceases to interest.
In the described situation, the person realizes that the partner is no longer interested in him, as a result, states that love is gone. But she didn’t go anywhere, she simply wasn’t there. Unfortunately, this is a very common situation for many married couples. In order not to get into it, you need to correctly assess your feelings, understand what exactly connects you with your loved one. Having mistaken infatuation for love, sooner or later you will surely feel disappointment.
How to understand that something is leaving your relationship? To do this, again, you should evaluate your feelings. Do you rejoice when you wake up next to your loved one in the morning, or turn away from him with annoyance? Are you drawn to him or do you want to see him as little as possible? Do you want, as before, to give him moments of joy, or his soul and feelings become more and more indifferent to you? If what connected you has disappeared, it would be more correct to honestly admit it to yourself and part as soon as possible. Each of you can still count on personal happiness, but together you will not find it.
It is worth noting that even loving people have quarrels and conflicts. But they also have something that allows them to quickly forget about everything - the ability to forgive. It is not for nothing that Christian ascetics said that love is longsuffering and covers everything. You cannot be angry and offended for a long time at the one you love, therefore all quarrels are very quickly forgotten.
