Starting from kindergarten, and continuing in school, in almost every group (class) there is a girl or boy, whom others treat without due respect, and sometimes even hostile. Such children are accused of someone else's fault, their personal belongings are taken away, and offensive nicknames are invented.
Outcast child. How can I help him?
Starting from kindergarten, and continuing in school, in almost every group (class) there is a girl or boy, whom others treat without due respect, and sometimes even hostile. Such children are accused of someone else's fault, their personal belongings are taken away and offensive nicknames are invented.
Who is at risk?
Often, outcasts are children with physiological disabilities, of a different nationality or social stratum, “botanists” and “bespectacled”. Children become weak from the inability to consolidate boundaries with other people. This is due to the parents, who are very strict, demand the impossible and apply all decisions for their children.
In a learning environment, to be good, you need to stand out and follow the rest. Unlike adults, children do not control their emotions and show their aggression explicitly. At first, one oppressor will appear, but if he does not see resistance, then over time a group of similar ones will form.
How can you help such a child?
The widespread belief is that it is necessary to change the environment, talk with the parents of the abuser, connect the teacher or class leader. However, in practice, this method is ineffective. After such actions, the child is even more susceptible to humiliation, and he is considered a "mama's boy", unable to resolve the issue on his own. Consequently, rogue children should change themselves, and parents should only help and help.
First, find out the factors of the bad attitude towards the child. There are problems that can be easily fixed:
if the child has problems with weight - make sure that he eats right, get him interested in playing sports;
if the child wears glasses, replace them with lenses;
if the child devotes a lot of time to study, advise him to engage in collective activities in the class, to take part in the preparation of the holiday;
if the child is poorly dressed, buy him fashionable clothes (normal clothes for children can also be purchased in stock stores).
It is much more difficult when the shortcomings are not eliminated for objective reasons. For example, physiological abnormalities or inappropriate nationality. Here you need to help the child find such a hobby or occupation in which he would have the opportunity to achieve great results. It can be computer technology, various sports or arts and crafts.
Listen to and support your child's interests. In any case, do not talk about how everyone around is bad and evil. On the contrary, show your child how you can change people by changing yourself before. This will be a real discovery for him.
