There are many anecdotes about the mother-in-law, but very few about the mother-in-law. Some daughters-in-law say that the mother-in-law is just not funny. However, a wise woman can learn to behave properly with her son's wife and even love her. And then she can rightfully call herself a good mother-in-law.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not interfere with the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the son, even if it seems to you that you know better how to build a family for them. Leave the young to themselves: they will sort out their problems on their own. In some cases, if the daughter-in-law asks, you can help her. However, explain that you will not do this every time: young people should learn on their own, without turning to their parents for help all the time.
Step 2
Talk to your daughter-in-law calmly, do not allow a mentoring tone, moralizing, do not try to show your superiority. Have a friendly and friendly conversation, smile. The daughter-in-law will probably mirror your behavior and try to please you.
Step 3
Trust your son's choice and do not reproach your daughter-in-law for being unworthy of your boy. The husband fell in love with her, which means that she has many attractive features. Don't consider her a bad wife just because she doesn't fit your ideal daughter-in-law. If you don't like a woman, at least try to be polite and calm with her.
Step 4
Do not think that your daughter-in-law is taking away your son's attention and love, and even more so do not blame her for this. Love for a wife and love for a mother are completely different things. Do not insist that young people visit you often and do not come to visit them yourself every day, because a young family may have their own business.
Step 5
Do not give your daughter-in-law advice of an intimate nature and never enter the room of the young without asking. However, if your son's wife asks you for advice herself, you can give it. Remember that she is still learning, and you can help with your wisdom when needed.
Step 6
If you live with your daughter-in-law, calmly react to how she manages the household. There is no need to teach a girl to cook, clean, wash, etc., if she herself does not ask for it. If you see that the daughter-in-law is trying to help you with the housework, do not reject her help, even if it seems to you that the young woman is doing everything wrong. Be patient.
