Problems in bed are most often associated not with the physiological characteristics of the partners, but with the psychological preparation of both. The main enemies of good sex are shyness and fear of looking ridiculous. Stiffness becomes an obstacle to real pleasure.
Instructions
Step 1
Discussing "forbidden" topics is considered tactless and indecent. Hence, the embarrassment in bed arises. And even if the partner does everything completely wrong, it will be embarrassing to send him in the right direction. Such psychological stiffness leads to imitation of orgasm, lack of satisfaction in sexual life. The task of partners is to learn how to have fun in bed. This can be achieved if you find psychological contact with each other. In a calm, confidential atmosphere, discuss thoughts and desires, talk with your partner about what he wants in sex, how he wants to realize it, and what is needed for this.
Step 2
Stiffness in sex is a fairly common problem for "beginners", inexperienced boys and girls. If your partner is one of those, help him, try to guide, teach, gently suggest. If it is you who are inexperienced in love, engage in self-education. A lot of manuals and books, fiction have been written. Naturally, the stiffness is gradually overcome in the process of frequent "practical training". An interesting "immodest" option is to watch a porn film together.
Step 3
Offer your shy partner an active role. If you have always been a presenter in bed, switch roles at least once. If it was you who were always seized by the stiffness at the sight of a naked partner, try to take his dominant role, stop being led. It helps to overcome oppression and tightness in sex. Tell your beloved that you are ready to fulfill his wishes. If some of them seem unpleasant or unacceptable to you, do not be afraid to speak directly about it. So you will achieve harmony in sex.
Step 4
One of the reasons for being embarrassed in bed is worrying about the imperfections of your body. Stop worrying. Your partner sees you in full. Remember how he looks at you, how much he wants you, how dear you are to him. Obviously, he simply does not notice your shortcomings, therefore there is no reason for you to have complexes about them. Otherwise, if you cannot overcome your natural shyness about excess weight, body flaws, etc., then it's time to change. Pull yourself together, go on a diet, exercise, see a doctor. Most likely, the cause of the complexes can be corrected in one way or another, and this will allow you to love and accept yourself.
