A family that is unable to have a child sooner or later thinks about adoption. But the adopted child is not a toy or an experimental subject. When planning to take a child from an orphanage, be prepared for some difficulties.
The stumbling block at the initial stage of adoption is often the collection of the necessary documents. Many couples give up their decision to adopt a child, not wanting to waste their nerves on paperwork.
Please be patient and do not stop thinking about the intended goal. To adopt a child, you must prove your legal capacity as a parent: fill out a questionnaire, submit a marriage certificate (preference is given to married couples rather than single parents), certificates of housing, work and stable earnings, no criminal record and serious illnesses.
One of the problems may be the form of accepting the child into the family. There are two forms: custody and adoption. If there is no official evidence of the absence of parents (decree on deprivation of parental rights, death certificate), then taking care of the child may be temporary - guardianship.
In the presence of documents, adoption is allowed, that is, the child becomes a full member of the family. Sometimes custody can go into adoption if there is official information about the insolvency or death of the real parents.
The main difficulties come during the period when the child is growing and developing. Serious illnesses may be detected that could not be detected at the stage of infancy. Think about whether you are ready to spend all your efforts and finances in the event of a health problem for your adopted child.
Also, the child shows character and his own opinion. Noticing the bad habits of the adopted child, parents in horror begin to think: "Oh, he is all in his mother, a drug addict!" etc. However, all habits can be eradicated if the child is properly raised.
When adopting children over 2 years of age, adaptation problems may arise. A child who has seen enough violence and scandals in his real family can be afraid of any rustle, change in voice intonation, etc. However, sincerely loving their true parents (whatever they are), children sometimes cannot get used to calling strangers "mom" and "dad". Do not demand unconditional recognition of you by your parents right away, it can take several months or even years.
Remember that repeated refusal and return to an orphanage can cause serious trauma to the child's psyche. Your patience, love, care and readiness for the hardships of family life will be a solid foundation on which you will build a happy family together.
