There must be limitations in every child's life. This ensures safety, allows him to grow up as a worthy person. But some prohibitions greatly narrow the scope for the development of children, make them insecure.
Proper parenting is not a set of strict restrictions. Adults can and should set their own rules, but you need to know when to stop. Some bans are bad for the child's psyche and instill self-doubt. There are things that should not be forbidden to the child, so as not to harm him, and also not to destroy the relationship with him.
Cry
Children are much more emotional than adults. They more vividly endure many life moments. Even a trifle can make them cry. You can't forbid them to cry. Moreover, one should not be ashamed for it. It is better to help understand the situation, explain to the child why he is crying, how to fix it. It will only strengthen relationships and help overcome age crises.
To ask questions
Small children grow up, learn about the world. It is quite natural that they have a lot of questions that they endlessly ask adults. No matter how strong the fatigue after a hard day is, you should not refuse the child to communicate. You cannot forbid him to ask questions, drive him away. This not only prevents him from developing, but also makes it impossible to establish a close bond between him and the adult. It is at this time that attachment is formed.
To be afraid
Young children are often afraid of injections, doctors, unfamiliar relatives, or just some suspicious people. This is quite natural for them. There is no need to be ashamed of fear in such cases. Moreover, you shouldn't make fun of a little man, say "don't you dare be afraid", "you are a future man." It is better to explain why this is not scary, just hug, take the hand and make it clear that an adult is nearby. Gradually, most of these fears will go away, the child will learn to cope with emotions.
Have secrets
As they get older, children have more and more secrets from adults. Of course, parents should control the child's life, but you can't forbid him to have personal space. These restrictions are useless and stupid. The secrets will not go anywhere, they will simply begin to be masked more thoroughly. In this situation, there is nothing more valuable than the trust of a child. Do not undermine him by reading a personal diary or eavesdropping on telephone conversations.
Be greedy
The little man has the right to dispose of his personal belongings. If someone comes up to him on the street and asks for a bucket, a bicycle, a scooter, he can refuse if he does not want to share. Do not blame him for this and say "how greedy you are." Moreover, one should not do it publicly. Psychologists assure that such behavior in children is the norm. Little people learn to assert their boundaries. If you think about it, adults do the same thing. If one of the passers-by comes up and asks for a bag or an umbrella, the request will cause confusion and is unlikely to be fulfilled.
To be wrong
Even adults tend to make mistakes. Children are just learning how to dress properly, clean up after themselves, and help their parents. Even if something goes wrong, there is no need to scold the child, to focus on it. This can kill the initiative. If you scold a son or daughter for an incorrectly buttoned jacket or a boot on that leg, the next time the child will not want to try. The fear of making a mistake can sink in the subconscious so deeply that the help of a psychologist is required.
Make noise
Many children are very noisy. You should not constantly forbid them to sing songs, talk loudly, make enthusiastic sounds. After all, this happy time will not happen again. A comment can only be made if the child is disturbing public order or the noise is not appropriate. If it's too late, and the children are amused, you need to stop them, but at the same time offer to continue their games tomorrow, and better on the street.
Say no
A child is not the property of adults, but a full-fledged member of the family. If he doesn't like something, he can and should say no. It is impossible to forbid him to contradict his parents or older family members, teachers, educators. At the same time, adults need to learn how to negotiate with the child, explain why he does not allow anything, what are the reasons for this. If you discuss the situation calmly, there is always a way out.
Get angry
Children have every right to experience any emotion. Often they get angry, and parents forbid expressing aggression in public. It is not right. Willpower in children is not fully formed. It is difficult for them to hide their feelings, to suppress them. If an emotion seems bad to adults, it does not mean that the child should stop showing it. You just need to teach him to do it within the existing norms of behavior.
