There are certain things that you should never do for a man if you want your relationship to be harmonious. You should never give in if it will be harmful.
Don't give him money
This should not be done under any circumstances. No matter what he said, no matter how he asked. Perhaps the only exception is when a man works hard and hard, constantly striving for new victories, but some unforeseen circumstance happened that he was not ready for. For example: fire, death of loved ones, expensive treatment, accident. Then, of course, help is needed.
Otherwise, if you give him money, your relationship will deteriorate. He is a breadwinner, a breadwinner, this is what nature intended for him. And if he needs money, he simply has to earn it on his own. By the way, pay attention to how a man solves his financial problems. If there is only one way out for him - to borrow, when you marry and have children, you will carry everything on yourself. And he only gets into debt and loans. Perhaps he will decide to enrich himself in some simple way, for example, by playing in a casino. Then money will flow away even faster.
Don't give expensive gifts
Especially if he is not too generous when he chooses gifts for you. Try to make pleasant, necessary and useful gifts that are approximately equivalent in value to what he gives. If he gives you a Mercedes for the second anniversary, and you, when finances permit, give him an ashtray from the All-in-50 store, this is not very good. But the return Mercedes is not worth giving.
If your man gives you something cheap for all the holidays, or even gets by with simple congratulations on the phone, then forget about gifts altogether. And in no case do not think that you will show him your location, and thus he will start spending more on you. It is not right.
Don't feel sorry for him
Women very often feel sorry for everyone. This cannot be done categorically. A man will not feel love for a woman who pities him. The mother usually regrets it. That is, he will complain about life and cry to you, but he will sleep with others. With whom he is next to strong and courageous. It seems to women that if he constantly pours out his soul, it means that he trusts. He is not afraid to appear weak and helpless. Yes, this is partly true. But, it's one thing when a husband came home after a hard day at work and shared with his wife that he was oppressed, and another thing when your boyfriend simply sucks the energy out of you and demands pity all the time.
Never poke the phrase "I told you so"
He himself remembers what you said. But he's a man, he makes decisions. And he must also bear full responsibility for them on his own. And if you constantly poke, so I told you, you never listen to me, he just stops making decisions. With this phrase you tell him in plain text: you are a fool, you can do nothing. If you listened to me, everything would be fine.
And it turns out that you will be a man in a skirt. By the way, many families suffer from this. Because a woman fulfills both female and male duties. And the man throws tantrums and drinks beer in the garage while his wife works at her third job.
Do not give up your career and personal life for the sake of great love
There are many examples among politicians and show business stars when a woman, getting married, stops building a career, leaves business and devotes herself entirely to her family. Yes, that's right, with one "but". These women do not stop developing and improving themselves. They do not turn into home clues who are not interested in anything other than baby diapers and TV shows.
You can change the circle of friends only because you yourself want it, but not in any way to please your man.
Don't change your appearance
If you are constantly being told that you need to lose weight, cut your hair, dye your eyebrows, wear jeans, try to gently hint that you are already satisfied with everything. Naturally, if you have not washed for months, and the man pointed out this, you need to listen. Changing his appearance to suit his particular preferences is not worth it for sure. As they say, they only meet on clothes. After giving birth, for example, women often gain a lot. And if a man is not ready to put up with a couple of extra pounds, what will happen then?
