The news of the betrayal of a loved one brings acute pain. This is due to the fact that a person feels deceived, he loses confidence not only in the one who seemed to be the closest and closest, but often in all members of the opposite sex. And, what is even more difficult, it begins to seem that the world is crumbling, that everything around is false and wrong, and it is not clear how to live with this further.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not torment yourself, at least for the first time, while the pain is still too strong. You should not blame yourself for failing to notice the hobbies of your loved one in time, failing to keep him from being unfaithful, or predicting and preventing an unpleasant situation. Such self-accusations at moments when a person cannot think objectively, as a rule, are exaggerated or even irrational, but they can lead to dire consequences. Don't destroy yourself.
Step 2
You should not transfer the situation to all members of the opposite sex. If, after the betrayal of her husband, a woman once and for all convinces herself that all men are liars and cannot be trusted, this attitude may become the cause of her unhappiness in the future. The same applies to men who begin to hate all the fair sex for the mistake of one of them.
Step 3
Exclude for some time any communication with your partner who cheated on you. If you live together, visit friends or family for a short time. Do not pick up the phone, do not answer messages. In order not to burn bridges at the same time, inform your loved one that urgent matters have arisen, and ask them not to bother you for a few days.
Step 4
Do not make scandals and do not take any decisions in the heat of the moment, otherwise you may later regret them. Do the things that help you relieve stress. This can be a trip to the gym, a conversation with a psychologist or with loved ones, a trip out of town, etc. Try to distract yourself for a while so that you can look at the situation more calmly later.
Step 5
Try to talk to your partner and find out the reason for his action. As much as possible, try to remain calm during the conversation. You should listen to your loved one, find out his attitude to the problem that has arisen and decide whether you are ready to forgive him, or all that remains is to part. If you have carefully weighed your decision and made it deliberately, stick to the planned action plan. If you intend to leave, leave. We decided to keep the relationship - fight.
