You have a wonderful family, wonderful relatives and a loving husband. There is only one annoying circumstance that prevents you from feeling happy. This is the ex-wife of your loved one. It is up to you to completely ignore her or try to establish normal relations with this woman. In any case, you need to treat your husband's past with respect and understanding.
Instructions
Step 1
Stop asking your husband about his past family life. You do not need to elicit all the details, and then suffer from jealousy. Constant comparisons of yourself with her will not lead to anything good. You do not need to drive yourself into complexes and cultivate a sense of your own inferiority. Even if the first wife is a beauty queen with an Oxford education, he ends up living with you, not her.
Step 2
Leave any attempts to speak out negatively in front of your husband about his ex. If your loved one chose her as a companion and lived with her for a period of time, then she is not such a fury. He may have told you about her creepy nature and disgusting habits to please you. Remember, he can talk badly about his ex. But you shouldn't follow his example. Be generous. Your husband will appreciate it.
Step 3
Do not try to find out what the ex-wife looked like, what friends she has, do not look for her on social networks and do not rummage in family archives for photos. If your husband has closed the door to his past and does not want to share his memories of him, then he has a reason.
Step 4
Stop all attempts by your ex-wife to insult you, quarrel with your husband or his family, or call you into a "serious conversation." If she calls abusively, hang up. If trying to meet you on the street, walk by. Sooner or later she will get tired of provoking you.
Step 5
Don't try to be like your loved one's ex-wife. Even if your husband has mentioned several times how he likes women who are skilled in self-defense, like his previous wife, this is not a reason to run to the aikido section. After all, you also like men in military uniform. But that doesn't stop you from loving a middle manager in an office suit.
Step 6
Don't let your former rival manipulate your husband. If she tries to make him feel guilty, don't stand aside. Explain to your husband that his ex-wife is already an adult girl and must cope with her problems on her own. And if she doesn't know how to do this, then it's time to learn.
