No matter how ignorant your husband's child may seem, it is worth considering the reasons for his behavior. Put yourself in the baby's shoes, how you would feel if you were in a similar situation. Of course, he is discouraged by the changes in their family. He needs to get used to you, and this will take time. According to psychologists, this can take about two years. It is necessary to take into account the main factors on which the child's attitude towards you depends.
Instructions
Step 1
Child's age.
Kids are always easier to make contact, unlike teenagers. The latter in this case often blame themselves for everything, and, strangely enough, revel in their grief.
Step 2
A child's attachment to his father.
It is you, in his opinion, who are the reason that prevents the father from communicating with him.
Step 3
The mood of the relatives of the former family.
In the presence of the child, they constantly speak of the father as a traitor, and of you as a homeless woman. Even if the baby does not fully understand the meaning of these words, from such conversations the child draws a model of attitudes towards your new family.
Step 4
You must earn the child's respect and, preferably, become his friend. Surely you are planning to have a common child, and his attitude towards the baby will be the same as towards you. Take action now.
Step 5
Do not give your child expensive gifts, bribery will not solve the problem. He will perceive you as a "wallet". The child needs sincere, and not fake, attention. Children are very sensitive to deception, and if he realizes that you are not honest with him, he will not forgive you for this.
Step 6
The main aspect is communication. Learn to listen to him. Make it clear that you communicate with him as with an adult, his opinion is important to you, but keep in mind that he is still a baby. Do not pass the responsibility on to him.
Step 7
Do not be annoying, remember that the father is the main one for him. You should not involve a child in a conversation when he is not in the mood to do so. But when he wants to talk, be sure to listen to him. Try to have a common hobby with your child. Traveling together also fosters rapprochement.
Step 8
Never lose face in front of a child. Be calm and tactful, never show negative emotions to his close relatives (mother, grandmother and others). Restrain yourself, at least in his presence. You are an adult and have no room for mistakes.
Step 9
Be patient. Sooner or later, the child's heart will thaw, then you will get real pleasure from communicating with him. And your beloved husband will appreciate your deed.
