Pain, resentment, mental emptiness - such feelings are experienced by a deceived wife who learns that her husband has a mistress. Some women immediately chop off the shoulder and file for divorce. Others, having decided to save the family, begin to think about how to discourage their man from the lovemaker.
Instructions
Step 1
So that you have a better chance of winning the competition for your man with another woman, stop tormenting yourself. Instead, it is simply vital to raise your self-esteem. Therefore, send further into the past thoughts that no one needs you, that you are not attractive, stupid, etc. On the contrary, convince yourself that you are the ideal, and there is no one better than you. After all, a confident woman is a calm woman. And it is precisely to such, and not to the eternally doubting person, the man strives.
Step 2
Take a short break - go to your mom, friend or sanatorium for as long as you feel right. You will need it to put your thoughts in order and understand how to proceed. Spend this time as you see fit.
Step 3
Add some indifference to the matter. Don't call him, arrange your leisure so that you have fun without your husband. Psychologists assure: men are arranged in such a way that they start to get nervous if his "usual" wife suddenly starts some new life, in which there may not be a place for him. In this case, the man begins to spend more time at home, tries to get involved in family affairs and … forgets about his mistress. After all, he simply has no time to meet with her.
Step 4
As soon as your husband's attention returns to the family, start gradually connecting him to household chores and problems. Consult with him to remind him once again that he is the head of the family. Let the man feel that his family depends on him, and then he will have more responsibility for you and the house.
Step 5
Of course, while there is such an intense competition, do not make any scandals for your husband. Otherwise, he will turn around and go where they are expected and loved for who he is.
Step 6
Be sure to take a fresh look at yourself in the mirror. Go to a beauty salon, spend a whole day in a SPA, get a haircut, change your hair color, lose weight - in short, do something that will help you change dramatically. The key word here is cardinal. Your husband has a mistress because he no longer has enough novelty. And here you will become both the old and the new at the same time. It's so unusual and intriguing.
