There are so many catchphrases, songs, anecdotes about the mother-in-law. This is rather a common noun. Sometimes a mother-in-law and a son-in-law wage a long-term and irreconcilable struggle among themselves for influence on a woman who is a daughter for one, and a wife for another. But this family triangle, internal confrontation, is completely avoidable.
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to realize that the son-in-law is the man whom the daughter has chosen, and this is her choice that must be respected. Whether you like your son-in-law or not, the main thing is that your daughter likes him, she loves him, she is happy. Build a relationship with your son-in-law on respect, understanding, kindness.
Step 2
Learn to control yourself, your feelings. Women are more impulsive, more emotional than men, and are often the first to provoke conflicts. Situations when the son-in-law is aggressive are much less common. But he can become so, responding to sharp attacks in his direction.
Step 3
Restrain yourself from the desire to interfere in the relationship between the daughter and her husband, from the impulses to make comments, teach, point out something. And don't turn your daughter against your husband. Self-control will make it possible to avoid conflicts.
Step 4
Remember that your son-in-law grew up in a different family, with a different lifestyle, life priorities. He is a mature person and does not want to be brought up, "customized" for himself. Moreover, he does not want his mother-in-law to interfere in his relationship with his wife. Understand that your advice should be just advice, not a guide to implementing it immediately. The power to make decisions should belong to the daughter and son-in-law.
Step 5
In order not to live the life of your children, not to consider participation in all the events and affairs of the daughter's family as your duty, do not narrow the circle of your interests, do what you like, what brings joy: growing flowers, embroidery, work, sports. Keeping your own life active, you will be able to avoid absolute immersion in someone else's life, you will not "choke" your daughter, son-in-law, or grandchildren with your care and guardianship.
Step 6
Nobody forces you to love your son-in-law. You love your daughter. So first of all, before starting a quarrel with your son-in-law, think about her, about her feelings, do not humiliate her chosen man.
Step 7
Show wisdom, delicacy and tact. It is not easy to accept an essentially stranger into a family, it is not easy to learn to be a mother-in-law, and even more so a good mother-in-law. But try - this way you will preserve the happiness of your daughter, her family life.
