Every parent wants to raise their child worthy of respect. So that he was looked up to and set as an example. This is probably why everyone is so eager to put all the brightest and most beautiful in the heads of their children. The only question is how the parents do it.
Instructions
Step 1
All parents have their own ways of influencing the child. Some prefer a peaceful dialogue with their daughter or son, others bribe children, and some do not hesitate to use the most radical methods. Unfortunately, many parents still use the whip method, although everyone has heard about its ineffectiveness. Some people think that the old ways of parenting work better, and the use of force is the only way to raise a real person.
Step 2
And I want to argue with that. Of course, it is possible to raise a person using corporal punishment, but will this person then be grateful for such a science? What can you instill in a baby with pokes and cuffs? What will become of his fragile psyche?
Step 3
Physical punishment is not a discipline. Rather, it is the powerlessness of the parents in the face of the situation. Admitting your own defeat. By hitting a child, an adult will not teach him to do the right thing, but will only show that he himself cannot cope with his emotions. Although, this is what I was trying to teach the kid.
Step 4
Physical punishment in itself is meaningless. Educational measures should be aimed at correcting behavior, not at transforming it. By punishing your child, you cannot teach him to do the right thing. Children, under pressure, can change their actions, but this will be temporary. In addition, the child will not even understand what his offense is. He will simply reflexively be afraid of reprisals for him, but he will not understand the essence of his mistake.
Step 5
The consequences of being punished with a belt can be dire. It is easy to lose not only trust, but also the love of a dear person. The manifestation of physical strength over the weak is the worst thing that can be. The kid, of course, cannot respond to the attacks of his parents and, often, moms and dads take advantage of this, seeking obedience from the child. Fear appears in the baby's soul. Fear of the most dear people who should explain and instruct, but not beat me in any way.
Step 6
The scary thing is that over time, in many families, children get so used to beating that they don’t think about another life. The manifestation of understanding and participation is wild and unusual for them. A certain model of behavior is involuntarily formed and, having matured, yesterday's children begin to “put their hands on” at every opportunity. And the same methods are already bringing up their children.
Step 7
Physical punishment can and should be replaced by other methods of education. Very young children can be easily distracted. If the baby does something unacceptable, you do not need to spank him right away. Paying attention to other points is much easier than parents are used to thinking. And as a result - pride in oneself and the absence of guilt before the baby.
Step 8
Older children are quite capable of listening to the explanations of their elders. And if an adult, having gained patience, explains to a child that he is wrong, he will be heard and understood. Children still do not know a lot, they intuitively explore the world, unwittingly stumbling along the way. Parental patience is perhaps the most important thing in parenting. Patience and the ability to understand.
Step 9
There is nothing easier than to cope with a child by force, to show him who is in charge of the family. But violence only breeds violence. Getting along with a child, becoming him not only a mentor, but also a friend is the only sure way to raise a child as a real person. In families where physical violence is prohibited, children grow up kind, sympathetic and noble.
