It often happens that our, until recently, such a dear and close child, becomes a stranger and closed. Why are we drifting apart? Why do children have secrets and their own lives that are not always safe for them?
Instructions
Step 1
Parents do not care what the child is doing. They do not control his actions, do not know his hobbies and interests, do not know his friends, and have no idea where and with whom he spends time. The child has full, unlimited freedom of action. Mom and Dad perform only material functions, without investing internal values in the child's personality. As a result, he has to look for the meaning of life elsewhere, and often this false meaning causes serious harm to the child.
Step 2
The opposite situation, hyper control, also does not bring the desired result. Parents try to track each step of the child, forcing them to copy their system of values and interests, ignoring the personality of their son or daughter. As a result, two types of children: one - get used to adapt, they are absolutely helpless, able only to obey, without having their own opinion, while others, on the contrary, begin to do everything in spite, which also ends very badly.
Step 3
Often parents, trying to satisfy all the needs of the child, do not deny him anything, try to hide from any difficulties in life. As a result, the child becomes an egoist, wants to get everything from life in an easy way, without making any efforts. Faced with real life has great difficulty. In addition, these children often treat their parents as consumers without even feeling respect for them.
Step 4
Excessive rigor will also not bring good results. Severe punishments for the slightest offenses and harshness in the relationship between parents and children, in response, cause fear and extraordinary cruelty in children, which then passes into adulthood. The child tries with all his might to hide his personal space from his parents.
Step 5
The life of a child is similar to that of Cinderella. The mother or father does not perceive the child for some reason. Children are very sensitive to the emotional alienation of their parents, it is especially dangerous if there are other guys in the family who are treated with love. As a result, the child grows up to be very touchy and vulnerable, feeling his inferiority.
Step 6
The desire of parents to make a child prodigy out of a child also often ends in failure. They try to give him the best education possible, to keep him busy with several things at once. Often no attention is paid to the child's talent or interests and desires. He has to run from school to the sports section, then to a music school or to foreign languages, instead of playing with his peers. Trying to justify parental ambitions, the child is torn to pieces, eventually becomes restless and anxious, begins to do everything for show, he may develop secret fears.
