Even the most beloved relatives can become annoying in some matters. With their behavior, they sometimes put them in an awkward position: you don't want to be harsh, but the moment has come when you decided to deny them something. How can this be done?
Instructions
Step 1
Challenge relatives for a frank conversation. Be as polite and tactful as possible. You shouldn't be the first to start a conflict. Very calmly explain to them the reasons for your refusal. Consider your arguments ahead of time. Do not forget that you have relatives in front of you. Even if for some reason you do not feel love for them. Demonstrate your accommodatingness, desire to find a compromise. However, do not give up positions. You will always have time to start a "war", but this will not solve the problems, but will certainly create new ones. Perhaps they will understand you correctly and stop imposing any inconvenient circumstances. The main thing is to think about what is more important to you: just refuse something or else and keep the peace at the same time.
Step 2
If the attempt at peace negotiations was not appreciated, then you need to show determination and say a firm "no". For example, when relatives ask for a visit, and you know their habit of staying for a long time. There is little choice here: either you find the strength to "bang your fist on the table", or you gain patience and, forgetting about your usual life, wait for their departure. Although you can simply write that there is an urgent business trip. But this method is a bad way out of the situation. Someone from mutual acquaintances may blab out that you are not going on a trip. Then you have to blush because of the deception.
Step 3
With long-term strained relations, you can refuse by phone. First, doing this will reduce the awkwardness. Secondly, it will ease the dispute - not seeing the interlocutor, it is easier to remain calm. In addition, with mutual coldness, no one will be surprised at such behavior. Remember, there may have been cases when your relatives did not treat you in the best way either. Forgotten emotions will help revive a sense of injustice, and the right words will come by themselves. Just do not stir up all the old grievances, otherwise, instead of a polite refusal, you can say a lot of unnecessary things and make enemies.
