Both man and woman belong to the same species - Homo sapiens. However, sometimes a man has to doubt that a woman is human and that she is reasonable. Sometimes one gets the impression that a woman is a creature from another planet. How can you understand it?
Instructions
Step 1
The easiest way for men is to simulate the situation. That is, you need to ask for advice on a situation similar to yours, but not for yourself, but for example, for a distant relative or colleague. The most difficult thing in this technique is to correctly formulate the question, highlighting the most important thing and placing the question in the “shell” of another situation, so that the woman does not draw an analogy.
Step 2
It is often helpful to formulate a hypothesis and include it in the stimulus question. For example, you do not understand why she has withdrawn into herself and does not share the news with you, as she usually did. If, in your opinion, nothing happened that could be the reason for this behavior, then you need to highlight the most important thing that worries you, that is, taciturnity. Then you need to put forward a hypothesis - let it be problems at work. And then come up with a "shell". As a result, the stimulus question may sound like this: “My friend's wife is being bullied at work; how can a friend help her? " Most women love to give advice. If the question provoked a vivid emotional reaction, you have hit the mark. Perhaps they will immediately tell you what to do in your own situation.
Step 3
The second way is associated with the so-called empathy or evoking the same feelings in oneself. However, this alone is not enough, you need to “mirror” these emotions and clearly show your friend. To do this, you need to say a little for a couple of days, look sad, but behave attentively and caringly, having come up with an unverifiable legend and hypothesis about the reason. Most likely, they will notice it and ask what the matter is. You will answer "problems at work" and on the wave of frankness ask why she is sad. If they don't notice, complain and then ask about her work.
Step 4
The third way is to ask directly, but not straightforwardly. The main thing is not to blame, not to get irritated and not demand an answer too persistently. Beloved should feel your attention and affection; you need to tell about your feelings. For example, you might ask: “You have had such sad eyes for five days now; tell me what's the matter? I will do everything for you, it hurts me to see you in this state."
Step 5
The most important thing is to be patient and condescending. Then the woman will sincerely answer your questions and it will always be possible to understand her from the first word.
