Small children are not responsible for themselves. You cannot rely on their assurances. They are unable to assess the consequences of their actions. In this regard, situations may arise that children cannot cope with by staying at home without adult supervision.
First you need to decide: at what age can a child be left alone at home? Such questions are of great concern to parents. Psychologists say that it is generally undesirable to do this. All children are different, and sometimes, when they are left alone, they develop fears, shyness, etc.
Another question, if the need arises. For example, a single mother cannot be with her child all the time. She has to work and there is no money to hire a nanny. However, it is not advisable to leave a child at home between one and five years of age.
A small child is not aware of himself as a separate person. He can feel himself only in conjunction with his parents and acquaintances. And if one day the mother, even for a short time, falls out of sight, this will cause stress in the child.
Let him tell his parents that he can calmly be left alone. Such recognition from a child under 5-6 years old should not be taken seriously, because he is not yet aware of responsibility. When he is alone, a crazy idea may come to his mind, which will begin to come true, and what the consequences will be, parents will find out when they return home.
In the old days, young children were often left alone, and so that they would not be afraid, a doll was made for them. It was a bunny toy. The kid squeezed her in a fist so that his ears remained outside and he could say something to the toy, share his joys and troubles. When they made a toy, they made sure to make a cross, which was a talisman for a child. And how relevant it will be in our time, it is necessary to find out individually.
Children develop in different ways, and when to leave their child alone, parents will have to decide based on the child's readiness. Parents need to be sure that their child is ready. Some show the ability to be alone from the age of five, while others are not ready for this at fourteen. It all depends on self-confidence, skill development, courage, etc. Take a closer look at the child. If he refuses such an offer, then no matter in what form it sounded, this should be postponed.
To speed up the process, you need to find time and every day at least half an hour to devote time to it: talk, play, discuss various topics. Such actions calm the child and give confidence that at least some time you will be with him.
To prepare a child for such a crucial stage, it is necessary to provide information in advance: where you will go, for how long and what you recommend to do. If the child is in difficulty, it is necessary to independently choose for him a range of activities for this period.
It is advisable to leave some means of communication with him and instruct him in case of emergency. From the very beginning, this leads to the fact that calls will come very often, the child checks his parents and calms himself. Don't get angry about it. Enter his state, and then you will understand that it is very important for him. Parents need to be consistent and keep their promises. If you were going to leave for an hour, then it shouldn't take three.
If you have not prepared your child for emergencies, this can pose a threat not only to his psyche, but also to his health. By overdoing it with care and painting horrific pictures of the consequences, you can instill fear in the child, and then it is sure that he will not agree to be alone. As much as you know him well, you need to consider the fact that he may not exactly follow your instructions.
