Informal movements in adolescents are quite common. Advice to parents on how to behave as an informal teenager.
Instructions
Step 1
Gather enough information. Explore the subculture to which your teenager is stuck, you will see a real picture of what is happening, perhaps get rid of worries. And most importantly, you will become closer to your child, you will be able to maintain a conversation about his hobby, and participate more in the life of a teenager.
Step 2
You can delicately discuss parental concerns with your teenager. You should not immediately pounce on the child and reproach for a stupid occupation. Give him the opportunity to allay your fears. Tell what the guys in the same direction are doing. Respond correctly, otherwise you will alienate the child.
Step 3
Share your personal experience with a teenager, tell us what you and your friends were fond of in your youth, highlight the positive and negative points, how you acted in certain cases, remember how your parents perceived you.
Step 4
Together with the child, you can choose and buy things with the attributes of his movement. This will help you get closer to your teenager, understand and perceive the child's hobbies better, and have a little control over what is happening.
Step 5
Subcultures are so popular with young people because they help them express themselves and stand out from the crowd. Based on the opinion of psychologists, this is an absolutely normal and natural need for a child, a need for self-affirmation and development. Therefore, you should not panic and worry if your teenager is seriously interested in a certain subculture. Take it as a normal phenomenon, do not forbid it, otherwise the teenager will do it in secret, in defiance of the parents.
Step 6
It is wrong to just ignore the child's hobbies. A teenager must definitely see that no matter how you like his hobbies, you perceive them, while respecting the opinion and choice of the child.
Step 7
You cannot criticize, speak badly about the idols of a teenager. For example, if you do not like the heavy music that a teenager is listening to, you should not rush into the room and demand that these screams be turned off. It is better to ask what kind of group it is, what direction in music, and then ask to make the sound quieter.
Step 8
Do not attribute all possible sins to informal movements. This does not mean at all that all informals necessarily smoke, use alcohol and drugs. For a teenager, these are offensive and inappropriate comments, parents do not understand him.
