Throughout our lives, we need the blessing of our parents. We are waiting for approval when we make the most important decisions - choose a profession, career or life partner. The parents' opinion does not always coincide with ours. They have their own reasons, arguments and reasons. What do you need to do to insist on your right to decide your own destiny and live with your loved one?
Parental disapproval. The reasons
The most obvious and independent reason from your chosen one or chosen one is a young age, when you have not yet completed your education, you do not have a stable income, you do not have your own home, but there are only prospects.
Parents can hinder sexually mature and determined children because they do not like a potential life partner. Or they don’t know him, don’t know his family and past. Or, on the contrary, they know too well the details of a stormy youth or terrible genetic diseases, or a criminal past, or sadistic inclinations and bad habits.
Despite the fact that we live in the 21st century, your parents may be against your marriage with a foreigner, with a person of a different race and religion.
Your actions
Listen to your parents anyway, without emotion, without interrupting. Analyze the reasons for their disapproval of your choice.
If you have not yet decided everything, explain to your family why you need it. Give them more information about the relationship with your partner: where and how you met, describe your common interests, life priorities and goals, tell about the family of your girlfriend or boyfriend, persuade them to meet.
Suppose that your companion has had negative experiences in the past - alcohol, drugs, criminal record. Think for yourself whether the game is worth the candle, whether you want to risk yourself, and subsequently your children. Maybe, without getting excited, it is worth accepting the point of view of the parents. Miracles do not happen, "if in the first act there is a gun hanging on the stage, then in the last act it will certainly fire."
However, if your love is unbreakable and you are not going to change your mind under any circumstances, talk to your parents again. In such a situation, you will constantly need to talk, prove, represent the positive qualities of your beloved or beloved. Chances are, reluctantly, your parents will bless you. And it is just as great that it will not be blessed and you will have to live in a state of discomfort. You decide.
In case you want to marry a foreigner, you also need to weigh the pros and cons. The difference in cultures, traditions, rituals, everyday features - all these are, rather, disadvantages when making a decision. However, love is a plus that outweighs all of the above. Prove to your parents that your chosen one or the chosen one is good, tell why you fell in love with them, develop all their fears.
And most importantly, in order to receive the parents' blessing, their support and protection, do not start a war, do not speak rudely, do not insist without giving reasons. Be respectful and reassure them of your choice.
