The relationship with the mother-in-law is a very specific thing. Some daughters-in-law consider her a member of the family, others an inevitable evil, and still others - a headache that comes as a free application to their beloved spouse. In any case, it is better to establish relations with the mother-in-law for the sake of peace and tranquility in the family.
Do not try to please the mother of your chosen one at any cost, a calm, even relationship is your initial goal. Be nice and polite, don't talk a lot, save the stories about your past escapades for meetings with your girlfriends, otherwise there is a risk that this information will become a "weapon" in the hands of your mother-in-law.
Attentions and nice little things will help make a good impression and add pluses to your piggy bank. Congratulate your mother-in-law on the holidays, spoil her with small gifts and culinary treats from time to time.
One of the main rules for maintaining good relations with your mother-in-law is to live separately with your family and visit her. If you do not have the opportunity to purchase your own home and will have to live in the house of your husband's parents for some time, be extremely correct. First, make concessions and try not to break the established order in this house. You should not redraw everything for yourself and try to become a new mistress.
Refrain from complaining about your husband, even if he is wrong and there is a high probability of support from the mother-in-law. First of all, he is her son, and you, even if you are a beloved, but still a daughter-in-law, perhaps not the first and not the last in her life. Praising the husband of the mother-in-law also needs to be dosed, if she is not a stupid woman, then she will suspect you of insincerity and self-interest.
Try not to depend on your mother-in-law; sooner or later you will be asked for the services rendered, financial assistance and raising grandchildren. And if you are still dependent on your spouse's parents, be prepared to humbly listen to a lot of advice and edifying speeches.
In no case do not turn your husband against your mother-in-law and do not speak negatively and disrespectfully towards her. Even if the mother-in-law is not worth a good word, for her husband she is a mother whom he loves and respects. You don't have to put your spouse in front of a choice, otherwise you can lose.
Provide all possible help to the mother-in-law, especially if she is already in old age. You shouldn't go to extremes and work like a galley slave, but a little help won't hurt. If possible, you can hire specialists for cleaning or renovation.
