When entering into an alliance, people cannot always correctly assess compatibility. Sometimes falling in love makes it difficult to see the true qualities of a partner. And if it so happened that after going to the registry office you realized that you are not an ideal couple, you need to decide something.
First and foremost, take your time. There is no need to make hasty decisions, it may not be so bad. There are no people without flaws, so you should take a closer look at your companion or companion. Then it is important to know that in any relationship crises necessarily come, and here it is important not to run, but to understand what is happening.
The marriage must be tried to be preserved. If you can communicate, talk to each other. It is important to express complaints to each other, but not with a shout, but consciously. This will allow you to correctly assess the situation, decide what to do next. Sometimes the mutual requirements can be changed a little and translated into reality.
If you can't speak calmly, contact a specialist. Modern psychologists can help. They use different methods to see the person next to the other side. This changes the attitude, and perhaps not everything was so scary.
Rest also gives you the opportunity to change your mind. Take a break, live a little apart. But it is important not only to be alone, but also to consider whether you need a partnership. Sometimes loneliness brings people closer, and sometimes, on the contrary, it divorces people completely. Just strictly define the period when you will exist without each other, for example, three months. And then make a decision, do not delay it for years.
The final break
If you decide that nothing can be returned, then you need to take responsibility and disperse. You need to start not with writing a statement, but with an honest conversation. Explain why such a solution is necessary. You've been close for a long time, so you need to stay on friendly terms. Talk about whether half agree to a divorce, try to be softer, do not hurt.
The application is submitted to the registry office. Usually one month is given to make a decision, suddenly people will change their minds. In the presence of small children, the process can be delayed. If necessary, an application for the division of property is also written to the court, if it cannot be done amicably. When divorcing, it is important to start sharing everything not with things, but with people. Think immediately who will live and how. This applies to both kids and half. It is necessary for everyone to be comfortable.
Be sure to tell the children what is going on. They will be able to understand you only later, when they grow up, but it is not worth keeping them in the dark. Be sure to tell them that it is not their fault for this event. Children often think that the breakup is because of them, and this becomes a severe trauma.
When divorcing, it's important not to hurt each other. The more calmly it goes, the better. Shouts, accusations usually lead nowhere. Remember that you had good moments, and thank your ex-spouse for everything you have lived. The kinder the relationship, the easier it is to go through life later.