Telling a guy that it's over between you two can be pretty hard. Surely, you would like to do this without hurting each other, while maintaining a good relationship with him. This requires preliminary preparation.
Don't give up hope
If you decide to break up with a guy, you must be extremely frank with him and not allow ambiguity. The guy shouldn't be left with the impression that you are not confident in your words and that your decision is not final. He will hope that one day you will be together again. Let him know that it's all over between you and me, tell him that it's time for both of you to move on.
Only talk to a guy
Quite often, girls share their relationship difficulties with their girlfriends. If you decide to break up with your boyfriend, don't tell anyone, not even your girlfriends. Rumors spread quickly, they can reach him. It will not be very good if the guy is the last to know about your decision. He will feel empty and humiliated.
Speak face to face
Do not under any circumstances communicate your decision using sms, a message on a social network or by phone. You may have been with your boyfriend for a long time. It will be much better if you talk to him in person and let him know your decision by looking in the eyes.
Look for words
If you've decided to break up with your boyfriend because of his flaws that you can't deal with, you may not want to talk about it directly. However, lying about the reasons for the breakup is also not worth it. Try to tell the truth, say, for example, that you are different people and do not fit together. Say you don't feel connected with your boyfriend.
Do not tighten
The conversation with the guy should not be long. The longer you talk to him, the more likely it is that you will sort things out, reconsidering your connection completely. If you've really decided to break up with your boyfriend, then you've already thought it through. Tell the guy about the reasons for your breakup and leave. Allow no more than 30 minutes to talk.
Don't show unnecessary emotions
Your boyfriend can be quite worried about your decision. This can manifest itself during a conversation, for example, insults, extreme depression, etc. Control yourself, do not talk to him about his feelings at this moment. Look at this in silence and then walk away. Showing emotion on your part will only make the situation worse. You will show that you are far from indifferent to the guy, he will have hope for the restoration of relations.
After parting
Perhaps after a while after breaking up, you will feel like you want to talk to your boyfriend. You may want to be with him again. If you think the decision to break up with your boyfriend was the right one, look for a way to get away from such thoughts and desires. Get distracted, meet friends more often, make new acquaintances, delete your ex-boyfriend's number from your phone.
