After the news of their wife's pregnancy, some men get scared, some of them rejoice in the long-awaited happiness, and someone plunges into depression, trying to get used to the idea of fatherhood. But no one can immediately realize what this concept really means.
Instructions
Step 1
Awareness of paternity does not come overnight. All nine months that a woman's pregnancy lasts, a man has to get used to her condition, mood swings, tantrums, strange desires and travel to hospitals. And also to the idea that he will become a father. It is not so easy to realize her, because it changes the usual way of life, places great responsibility on the man, as on the head of the family.
Step 2
However, a woman's pregnancy provides the necessary time for a man to prepare for the appearance of a new member in the family. And it's not only about buying new things, but also about realizing the fact that now a man will become a father. Women sometimes have a hard time carrying a child, it is hard physically and mentally, but they may not notice that it can be just as hard for men. After all, they rethink their own lives and achievements, take care of their future status, and sometimes even begin to be jealous of their spouse for their unborn child.
Step 3
You do not need to immediately try to imagine yourself as a father, first you need to get used to the thought of a child. In any case, he will cause a storm of emotions, regardless of the mood of the future dad. Further, it is worth recognizing that it will not be possible to fully prepare for the appearance of a baby, no matter how many books you read and no matter how many advice from experienced friends you listen to. You cannot find out everything in advance until the baby is at home. And then you will have to try a lot in practice, so do not be afraid to take the child in your arms, bathe him, play with him or rock him. But even the moment a baby is born and the joy of meeting him do not yet make a real father out of a man and do not help him fully realize himself as such.
Step 4
Real understanding comes later, after 1-2 months of the child's stay in the house, after sleepless nights and taking care of the woman and the baby, after difficulties and even possible quarrels. It is not easy, but the feeling when a child first recognizes his father and smiles at him is extraordinary. And for him, you can forgive the inconvenience and other troubles.
Step 5
Even if in the first weeks of a child's life the relationship with his spouse does not work out, the child does not seem like a stranger not like you, there is no need to despair. This is absolutely normal, since everyone experiences stress at this time. The main thing is not to be confined to your own feelings and to understand that it is a small life nearby - this is what you need to take care of now and what you should devote your time to. After all, fatherhood is not just a status, it is associated with great love and giving oneself, one's strength and time to a native baby. Only by understanding this and taking all the difficulties for granted, a man can understand why he lives in the world.
