Becoming a father is not just about conceiving a child, it is a meaningful and serious decision to accompany him throughout his life. And it is not the easiest decision that you need to make on your own, after carefully weighing everything and thinking it over.
Instructions
Step 1
Think hard. An unplanned child is not always only difficulties and troubles. To decide to become a father, you just need to weigh the pros and cons of the very fact of paternity. Think about the fact that a child is not only a responsibility, but also a great joy. Imagine, at least for a couple of minutes, how many good things you can do for your baby, what to teach him. Think about what your father did for you. Even if you grew up without it. He gave you life - and that's not enough. Think about it, because you can become better than him, give your child everything he needs.
Step 2
Watch a thematic video or movie. Very often, the thought that nothing good will come of paternity does not allow us to fully appreciate the upcoming picture. It is possible that a thematic video about the fact that being a father is a great happiness will help alleviate anxiety a little. It is not recommended to watch films describing the process of childbirth. This can be even more intimidating. But a good melodrama or comedy about fathers and children will come in handy. If movie heroes can cope with their problems, then you definitely can do everything. In the end, a good movie will just cheer you up. Namely, the angle from which you look at the situation depends on him.
Step 3
Visit a psychologist. Parents become at different ages. And the pregnancy of a girl does not always happen "on time". To cope with negative thoughts, give up drastic measures (for example, abortion or separation from the expectant mother), it will not be superfluous to visit an experienced psychologist who will help coordinate your behavior and thinking. Leaving a pregnant woman is not difficult, but do you have any guarantees that after some time you will not regret your decision and do not want to return to your child? And by this time it may be too late. Consider visiting a specialist if you have the slightest doubt that you will soon be a dad.
Step 4
Talk to your father or an acquaintance who has already become a dad. There is nothing easier than discussing this topic with a loved one who has already gone through a similar situation. First, all your doubts and thoughts are familiar to them. This means you can get really valuable advice. Secondly, it will become much easier on your soul. The realization that there are those who support and understand you plays a big role. It will be easier for you to come to terms with the idea that you are now not alone, that a child will soon be born who will become your continuation, your legacy, your support.
