Jealousy is a feeling inherent, perhaps, in every normal and completely adequate person. Only those who have destroyed all their feelings and emotions are not jealous at all. Light jealousy is quite natural and is the reverse side of love. But this feeling can be devastating. What then is to be done?
Sometimes a jealous person loses control over himself, and then the world around him begins to collapse. Relationships collapse, love, family collapse, the soul of the jealous person collapses.
If you are jealous, and this interferes with your life, do not reassure yourself that it is not you, but your partner who is to blame for the situation of jealousy. You yourself are constantly looking for evidence of your suspicions of your partner's infidelity: you eavesdrop on telephone conversations, read sms, follow, hire detectives, sort things out. You need to stop and ask yourself questions: do you really want to know all the secrets of your partner and whether you can live with it.
If your jealousy is not unfounded, the fact of betrayal is obvious, it is better not to fight with jealousy, but to think how to live with it, what to do next. It is important to understand yourself. Do you love your partner, can you come to terms with the fact of treason, why is this situation. Perhaps you yourself, with your behavior, pushed your partner to cheat? If you want to stay together, then you have to work on yourself and your relationship. You need to learn to trust your partner. Without trust, it is impossible to build a harmonious union. Pay more attention to your partner, perhaps it was his lack that led to the betrayal.
If there are no apparent reasons for jealousy, then most often, this feeling is caused by past experience, past traumatic situation. For example, parting, betrayal, divorce. You are simply afraid of its repetition, and jealousy in this case is like a defensive reaction, a desire to protect oneself from the pain experienced once. It is important to understand here that the past and the future are different things, although they are very interconnected with each other. Let go of past pain, forgive everyone who hurt you, and most importantly, forgive yourself. Understand that everything is different now, it should be different. It will become easier for you.
But jealousy can also be caused by low self-esteem, insecurity. There is only one way out in such a situation - to increase self-esteem, self-confidence, in one's attractiveness, in one's good qualities.
And if they are jealous of you? You need to talk to your partner, try to determine the cause of jealousy. Try not to create situations in which your partner will doubt you. But explain to him that each person should have their own personal space, their own sphere of interests. At the same time, it is very important to show your partner your love, your sincere attitude towards him, and care for him.
Love in reality is to one degree or another imperfect and imperfect, often subject to doubt, mistrust, fear of losing a partner, and, consequently, jealousy. Work on yourself, give your love to your partner, trust him and then you will be able to avoid the transformation of jealousy into a destructive force.
