For families with a second marriage on the part of the husband, a situation arises when the spouse speaks of the first wife not in the best way. For example, that she did not cook well or did not know how to behave in the company, as she swore heavily. The second wife in such a situation does not know how to react: ask her husband to keep her feelings to herself or to condole with him.
In the end, these are his personal grievances, why does he constantly drag them to your family? And it is not at all known whether these stories are true. Or maybe the husband is just making up? Men who have survived their first marriage often leave it with a heavy load of resentment behind their backs. And such their stories are most likely true. Otherwise, why would they, then, denigrate a woman with whom they no longer have anything in common? Another thing is that this characterizes a man not from the best side.
We will not delve into why the husband is doing this now, but see how we can help him get out of this situation in a dignified manner. A wife needs to choose a convenient time when she and her husband are in a good mood, when they are full and sleepy. Sit down next to your beloved, hug him and in a low voice, tenderly say: Dear, I have you
so wonderful, I love you. But there is one topic that saddens me a little. I am not very pleased when you talk about your past relationships. Let your wife remain in the past, and you and I in the present and the future. Do we want to live happily ever after? Let's live in the present and the future too. Please, let's not talk about this anymore. If a husband is reasonable, and I want to believe that my readers choose just such as husbands, then he should listen to the words of his wife.
Well, the information that husbands gave out when talking about their first marriage can be very useful for wives. Wives will already know for sure what the husbands did not like in their first marriage and not make these mistakes when living together. It is better for women to listen attentively to their spouses and to "wind up everything" This will help them understand each other better.
And one more thing: ask your husbands not to accumulate resentment against you, but to express everything at once. After all, such a "Bank" of unspoken grievances is a real time bomb. Therefore, try to "not install" it in your home in advance.
