In the beginning, a relationship can develop perfectly even with the wrong partner. During the candy-bouquet period, passion, interest, mystery reign in a couple. To find out what the union will be in the future, you need to listen to yourself and take a closer look at the man who is next to you.
It is sad if a woman realizes too late that the wrong man is next to her. Spending several years or even your whole life with an unsuitable husband, having children from him and tying your destinies tightly together is a big mistake. To avoid it, you need to analyze your feelings around your partner more, try to get to know him better and determine how compatible you are. The biggest flaws may not mean anything if the person is right for you. Likewise, any virtues fade in a man who is not your destiny.
Sometimes, under the pressure of social norms, the advice of parents and friends, or out of fear of being left alone, a woman is in too much of a hurry to link her fate with her chosen one. You need to understand that the principle "endure - fall in love" works very rarely. On the contrary, with age and the growth of household chores, people can only irritate each other even more. Of course, this will not happen if they fit together perfectly. Because of passionate love, the desire to get married or have a child, you should not rush to make a choice. You don't need to do this just out of fear of being left alone or under the pressure of years.
Analyze your feelings
A man cannot be your destiny if you do not really love him. Try to sort out your feelings. Is this guy really dear to you, or is it just a lot of sympathy, passion and respect. These feelings are important, but they are not enough for building strong relationships for many years. Think about whether you have finally settled on this man, or have remained in a state of search internally. If you expect to find a more suitable option, this partner is definitely not your destiny. When you have doubts and are unsure of your feelings, give yourself time.
Believe in actions, not words
To check the feelings of a man, you need to analyze his actions, and not believe the words. No matter how well you treat him, the feeling should be completely mutual. Take a closer look at how much he cares about you, whether he considers your opinion, whether he takes care of your feelings. A loving man will try not to do what upsets the chosen one. In addition, he will strive to spend more time together. Analyze how he prioritized, where you are for him.
Introduce you together in the future
Try to visualize your shared future. Think over the little things: how do you live together, how your life is arranged, responsibilities are distributed, leisure is organized. Pay attention to how easy it is for you to dream of a future life together. If you find it difficult to see yourself next to this man, perhaps you don't know him well enough to judge whether this is your destiny. Or, on a subconscious level, you already have an answer to this question, and it is negative.
Visualizing a shared future will help identify negative attitudes that prevent you from being around this person. If something annoys you, don't write it off. For example, you know in advance that your man will come home from work very late, and you just need time together every night, communication and joint rest. In the not too distant future, this can make you truly unhappy.
Make a list of points and weaknesses that are important to you that you may not notice. For example, you can write what your man should ideally do for you or with you, what he should not do, what actions you consider acceptable. For example, the first list would be grocery shopping, cleaning help, and weekend visits to your parents. Think about whether your chosen one is capable of these actions? If the answer is no to most or all of the points, it will be difficult for you to get along.
Let's say in the second list there is a habit of not putting your things in place, picky in food and an unwillingness to clean up. It is better to find out in advance if your partner does not have all these vices. Don't make too long lists. Think about what annoys you in everyday life, which will be difficult for you to get used to. After all, relationships should be easy, and household chores, despite their down-to-earthness, can ruin even the highest relationships. The third list may include actions of your partner, which, in principle, you can sometimes tolerate. But make sure that there are not too many coincidences on them. Otherwise, like this, drop by drop, your love will be constantly tested for strength.
Compare your views and principles
Not only compatibility in everyday life is important, but also the similarity of life views. If you think a man is perfect for you, find out first how tolerant or radical he is about sensitive social issues. Think about what is important to you. For example, if you are trying to protect nature, visit ecological stores, and your chosen one does not spare plastic bags and mindlessly wastes water, you may have serious disagreements. Or, for example, you are used to leaving your car wherever you can, and your man strictly observes not only traffic rules, but also parking laws. Imagine what disagreements await you in the future if one of you does not adjust to your partner and change your positions.
Similar plans for the near and distant future are also important. If you are a pronounced careerist, and a man has long dreamed of children, this moment will be revealed very soon because of its obviousness. But the desire to live outside the city in old age, which only one of you has, may emerge after the wedding. Talk more with a man, find out about what kind of life he dreams of living. Maybe you are hoping for strong financial support from your partner, and your boyfriend sleeps and sees himself quitting a well-paid job and starting to paint pictures. Not every love can withstand such disagreements. And there is no need to say that this man is your destiny.
Be confident in the chosen one
Of course, you can't trust anyone one hundred percent. But if, at the beginning of a relationship, doubts creep into your soul about a man's loyalty, his readiness to protect you or sacrifice personal interests for the sake of your family, it’s bad. If he really suits you so much that you can connect your destiny and your whole future with him, you should feel calm and confident. Life like on a volcano, with jealousy, quarrels and scenes, betrayal and forgiveness, can only look romantic in films. In reality, even eccentric girls settle down over time and expect stability and support from their husband, not to mention the absence of intrigues on the side.
