During the divorce of the parents, the child experiences a difficult psychological drama. But the correct behavior of mom and dad, reliable information and confidence in the future will allow you to experience this moment less painfully. The correct behavior of others at this moment is of maximum importance.
Instructions
Step 1
You need to talk about divorce to your child at a time when you are already sure of this decision. Think it over properly. Uncertainty can be very frightening and stressful. If you are confident in your decision, please share the news together. This should be a family discussion.
Step 2
Talking about such circumstances, tell us how your future life will turn out. For a baby, everything should be extremely simple - with whom he will live, how he will communicate with the second parent. The conversation should be calm and unhurried, so as not to frighten or provoke aggression.
Step 3
Do not use the phrases “we were abandoned” or “you were abandoned” with the child. If one person has left, then the rest can also leave. The child may have a fear that soon he will be left alone, that all his relatives and loved ones will leave him.
Step 4
Don't ask to take sides. The choice is not easy to make. This opportunity can be given after 15-16 years. Until this age, try so that the little person does not hear judgments towards the spouse / or relatives. Even an adult is not able to figure out who is right and who is not. Dilemmas like these can lead to trauma.
Step 5
Do not sort things out in the presence of the child, do not swear, do not raise your voice. This behavior creates feelings of guilt. Do you really want your child to think that you divorced because of him for the rest of his life? Divorce is a matter of two people; you do not need to initiate all family members into it.
Step 6
Tell your son or daughter that you love him no matter what. Suggest that you will never leave him / her. Spend time together, play, do homework. Let divorce not be a reason to reduce the amount of communication, because it is during this period that the child really needs it.
