The first kiss is the most important stage of a relationship, on which their further development depends. Especially often the fair sex is worried about him, wanting this moment to become as romantic as possible. For everything to go perfectly, every nuance must be taken into account.
Preparing for the first kiss
For a kiss to take place, it is necessary that both the girl and the guy want him the same. It is important that both partners have a feeling of love, or at least sympathy for each other. It is quite difficult to achieve this at the first and even the second meeting, so you should not rush to the first kiss. It is better to devote the first 2-3 dates to communication, finding common interests, testing feelings. As established couples claim, the moment for a kiss should be felt on an intuitive level, and very often it happens for the first time completely spontaneously under the influx of feelings.
A very important point on the way to the first kiss is touch, which must be used during the first few meetings. From time to time, you should take your partner by the hand, hug him, stroke him on the head, etc. It removes the barrier between people, increases trust in each other, and also heightens feelings.
If you are worried about how well everything will go, replay the kiss in your head in advance, as well as the events that will precede it. The right mental attitude will also help in the event that the moment of the kiss comes earlier than you planned.
Lip care
The key element of the kiss is the lips, which should look well-groomed and attractive. If your relationship is developing and the moment of decisive action is about to come, take the following measures:
- Use a lipstick, balm, or other lip care product daily.
- Find the perfect lipstick or gloss to match your look.
- practice your lips in front of a mirror, slightly lifting them up and pulling them forward: such movements will be a light hint to your partner that you are ready for a kiss.
It is very important to pay attention to the freshness of the oral cavity: be sure to brush your teeth before a date, and always have chewing gum with you. The right perfume scent will also attract a partner. Already during a date, try to find a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and correct your makeup, if necessary.
Kissing technique
The touch of the lips can be light and short, or intense and long-lasting. In the first case, this demonstrates some restraint towards the partner, a more friendly attitude. In the second - already the expression of already strong feelings, perhaps even a declaration of love without words. There is also such a form as a friendly kiss on the cheek. If you're not ready for more yet, you can use it to complete your first few dates.
In all situations, the kissing technique is different. You can practice doing it at home, looking at yourself in front of the mirror. Some, for greater clarity, put their lips to the outside of the palm or some kind of fruit.
For a friendly kiss:
- Without opening your lips, pull them forward by 2-3 mm;
- If desired, tilt your head slightly to the side, close your eyes;
- Lightly touch your partner's lips for 1-2 seconds and pull back.
For a romantic kiss:
- Part your lips slightly and pull forward;
- Close your eye and tilt your head at a strong angle;
- Touch your partner's lips, try to slightly pull in his lower or upper lip;
- Try to touch the tip of your tongue to your partner's tongue, run over your lips.
In order not to be mistaken when choosing a kissing technique, pay attention to special signs and sensations. With a friendly touch, a characteristic sound "smack" should sound, after which you can already move away. As for a romantic kiss, it can last as long as a few seconds or about a minute, depending on your feelings, desires and partner's reaction. During it, you can change the angle of the head, experiment with the intensity and shape of the touch, as well as additionally hug your partner, stroke the head and neck.
The lips should always be relaxed while kissing. In general, you shouldn't pay too much attention to them: try to focus on the general feelings in order to enjoy the moment and give it to your partner. Only if you are making a romantic kiss, which is often called "French", should the touch of the lips be as intense as possible, and if the partner reciprocates enough, you can experiment with the tongue, as well as perform additional hand manipulations.
How to get to the kiss
It is very important that the first contact with your lips occurs at the most appropriate moment. If you're in the mood for romance and deep kissing, the atmosphere of the date should be appropriate. There are several common situations where the chances of things going well are high. It is important to remember this and be on the lookout so as not to scare off a partner who is already tuned in to activity.
Usually a man becomes the initiator of a kiss, having chosen the right moment. If he shows shyness, the woman may well take the situation into her own hands. You can limit yourself to subtle or explicit hints, using facial expressions of lips and eyes, or you can smoothly approach your partner's face and kiss him, if you are completely confident in him and your feelings.
A good chance for lip-licking appears during a movie session, especially if it is a movie about love. You can also go for a kiss while walking in some scenic place. A good opportunity arises at the end of the date, when the guy escorts the girl home. And, of course, the situation cannot be neglected if the meeting takes place at home.
Another of the key places where you can easily kiss a guy is the nightclub. During joint dances, touching occurs especially often, and the moment for intercourse with lips comes quickly enough. A restaurant is not a very good place to switch to kissing: despite the romantic setting, partners usually sit opposite each other, which complicates any manipulation.
Before the kiss, you can express sympathy for each other in the form of a series of compliments. You can hint or understand that the moment has come by looking your partner in the eyes. Lip gesture and touch play an important role too. You do not need to be afraid of a kiss: think that without it your relationship will not move to a new level, and your partner will not have the best opinion of you.
What to do after a kiss
If everything goes well, you need to overcome the inevitable awkwardness. A light smile and a little compliment will be enough. It may also happen that a kiss will become a reason to confess to your partner your feelings. Do not be upset if everything did not go too smoothly: there will still be many opportunities in your life to prove yourself and practice, bringing the art of kissing to perfection.
It is worthwhile to provide for such a situation that the partner refuses to kiss, pushing you aside and saying that this should be postponed for now. Perhaps the moment has not really come yet, and it takes more time to get to know each other better. Also, you do not need to make a kiss forcibly just to please your partner: everything can turn out far from the best way, both during touching and in further relationships. The desire should be truly sincere and mutual.
