A romantic relationship with a mature man can end in union, marriage, or remain a fleeting romance. But they always start with flirting, on which it largely depends on how the love story will develop in the future. What are the features of flirting with a grown man?
A mature man often becomes the object of "hunting" and flirting for women of different ages. An adult woman is attracted by stability, financial solvency and a low likelihood of cheating. Young women are attracted by wisdom, indulgence, rich life experience and material well-being, which most men reach in adulthood. In addition, a man "in his prime" is usually a gentle and experienced lover who knows a lot about pleasures.
However, winning such men is not easy. They value freedom, most often they are perceptive, distrustful and suspicious ("she only needs my money, apartment, social status …" and so on). How to charm a mature man?
Strange as it may seem, a woman of "Balzac's age" has much more to become a life partner of a mature man than a young person. In matters of living together, a man trusts his partner who has lived and "grief-stricken" more than a young lady. The age difference scares a man, and there are many reasons for this. There are many reasons for fears: he is afraid of betrayal, insincere attitude, material claims and a difference in worldview, fears sexual failures in bed, deception and betrayal on the part of a young applicant for the role of a life companion.
Intellectual communication is essential for a mature man in a relationship. This does not mean that an applicant for the role of a life partner should be at least a candidate of sciences. But the ability to be an interesting interlocutor and a good outlook will become an undoubted advantage, and flirting with an intellectual "note", slight mystery, a little mystery, the ability to listen and hear the interlocutor will dramatically increase the chances.
A huge disadvantage in the eyes of an adult man can be the habit of arguing about any reason. Trust in the words spoken by a man is one of those qualities in a woman that can win most men's hearts.
Harsh criticism, excessive moodiness, hot temper, fixation on one's appearance and other virtues, as well as attempts to manipulate a man using conditions can harm. Grown men do not like endless bargaining for a woman's favor, rightly believing that this takes time, nerves and lowers mood.
In general, if a woman in a relationship from the very beginning claims exclusive attention to her person, a man may be disappointed, since no one wants to lose the feeling of independence and freedom at the first woman's demand. By insisting on her demands and fulfillment of conditions, exerting psychological pressure or throwing tantrums, a young woman runs the risk of remaining "in her own interests." Grown men forgive young women a lot, but emotional discomfort in a relationship can destroy any charm, and very quickly.
A mature man is not afraid to take responsibility for the relationship; he will gladly take part in solving problems with a potential partner, especially if he sees a joint future and long-term perspective. Therefore, you should not strive to look like such a super-independent young lady in his eyes. On the contrary, a slight vulnerability will only attract him, and the opportunity to help a woman he likes will allow him to increase his own self-esteem. Therefore, you should not neglect his help, it brings you closer. While refusing to help can disappoint him and sow doubts about his own need for the relationship that has arisen.
A very delicate issue is the physiology of sexual relations. The sensuality of a young woman, which has not yet blossomed, at first easily harmonizes with the sexuality of a mature man. He is in no hurry, devotes more time to his partner (unlike hypersexual peers), does not torment his partner with excessive demands, and his experience only enhances harmony in the process of physical intimacy. However, when deciding to marry a man who is much older than his partner, one cannot ignore the difference in sexual appetites. In such a marriage, there is a likelihood of disharmony in the future, when the man's sexual attraction begins to fade away, and the woman is "in the prime" of sensuality. Of course, this problem may not be so acute, but both should be ready to solve it.
Nor should you overestimate the importance of sexual attraction in relationships with an adult, sophisticated man. Do not forget that there is a huge difference in worldview between a young man and a mature, accomplished man. A mature partner cannot be seduced by a sexual challenge, unlike young guys, such men are not so susceptible to relaxed behavior and open flirting. Demonstration of sensuality will not produce the desired effect if it is out of place. It will not be difficult to drag an experienced man into bed in this way, but further relationships are likely to be hopeless from the point of view of a full-fledged union and marriage.
Flirting with a mature man should be aimed at full communication, at gaining trust in each other, and not at simple physiological seduction. Then the relationship will be deep and strong, and the marriage will be stable..
