When fostering responsibility or other important qualities in a child, be prepared for a daily and ongoing process. First of all, you yourself need to find restraint, the habit of analyzing any situations and talking with the child in such a way as not to lose your own or his dignity. You also need to skillfully combine control and granting freedom.
Instructions
Step 1
Consider the situation first. You need to know what can be required from the child, what level of responsibility is appropriate for his age. Realize that your personality, your example, and the conditions you create at home are the tools of parenting. Responsibility is based on moral education, so teach your child universal human values, what is socially acceptable, what is not, what is good, what is evil.
Step 2
Establish clear and consistent family rules if your child is at an early age. This will allow him to feel the boundaries of the world, your reliability and will lay the concept of danger and safety, which is the basis of a responsible attitude to his life and health. Provide flexibility in family rules and traditions if the child is already a teenager. As we grow up, the boundaries should expand.
Step 3
Assign feasible responsibilities for the child. Yulia Vasilkina, a consultant psychologist for the Mama and Baby magazine, uses the concept of a “zone of responsibility”. At each age, they differ: it can be toys, and a bed, and your appearance, and pets, and household chores of different levels. The age of 5-7 years is ideal for laying the foundations of responsible behavior, at this time the child's motor and intellectual capabilities, his sphere of activity, expand.
Step 4
Give your child the opportunity to experience the consequences of not fulfilling their responsibilities, albeit negative ones. This heightens children's awareness. Show that he has personal responsibility for each act and for inaction. When talking with children, try to predict the consequences of one or another choice together, develop the ability to analyze, predict the outcome of situations.
Step 5
Stimulate independence in matters of the child's personal interests: hobbies, games, personal belongings, toys. Encourage initiative, especially if it says what the child thought before taking the action, even if you did not like the decision or it was not optimal. Discuss and analyze this, but do not reproach, do not insult. Learning to trust and communicate with your child on an equal footing is an important point in fostering a sense of responsibility.
