Long-distance relationships arise for various reasons - someone is separated by business trips, someone found their soul mate on the Internet, but it turned out that she lives on the other side of the country …
Some believe that such a relationship is generally doomed. We set out to find out what actions of lovers will help them overcome separation and unite in a happy union?
Realize the difficulties
Knowing about the upcoming difficulties, you can protect yourself from disappointment and think about possible actions.
1. Pressure of public opinion. Questions and hints like: "Are you sure that he doesn't walk from you there?" can severely spoil your blood.
2. Loneliness at important moments in life. The need to appear alone at parties, a call instead of a kiss on a birthday, the lack of care of a loved one when she is sick - all this will have to be endured …
3. Severe lack of physical contacts. Children and animals get sick if they lack physical contact. Adults react differently, but it’s hard for them too.
4. Flight and communication costs. To see each other at least sometimes and maintain a relationship, you have to pay.
Especially lacking in smell
1. According to statistics, most distance relationships end at the initiative of men. This is due to the fact that men, due to their psychological and physiological characteristics, are more difficult to tolerate separation. Therefore, a man, choosing between a real partner and one that exists somewhere far away, will always choose the one that is nearby. In the same situation, a woman can choose both the first and the second.
2. All the same impartial statistics: long-distance relationships do not have such a long life span. Usually after 2-3 years people either break up or start living together. Of course, there are exceptions to this general rule, but there are not many of them.
3. It is known that only 2% of information about the world around a person receives through the sense of smell, but these 2% are very important when it comes to intimacy. If the separation is too long for everything to go well, your receptors must "remember everything." And this requires an adaptation period from several hours to several days (holding hands, hugging, etc.).
Learn to appreciate the positives
But even long-distance relationships have their advantages. They help strengthen the spirit and make it easier to deal with separation:
1. In separation, people communicate more than living together. Paradoxically, it is! Separated couples involuntarily have to put all thoughts and feelings into words.
2. The separated learn to overcome selfishness. If your soul mate in another city wants to enroll in dance courses, you will not have the right to interfere - at a distance, everyone organizes their own life.
3. In separation, partners appreciate every minute spent together.
4. They do not quarrel over everyday life, only "high" relationships!
Create a “reunion plan” together and follow it
The key to a happy ending in distance relationships is a detailed view of the future together.
1. Make general plans. Schedule a date for the next meeting, figure out what you will do, discuss common affairs, etc.
2. Meet more often. Better to see each other one day a month than a week every six months. The continuity of the meeting process is more important than their duration. Don't skimp on meetings!
3. Don't make each other jealous. No hints, no provocations, even in jest! If there are doubts about loyalty, the relationship is doomed.
4. Discuss the time of your “meetings” through communication channels so as not to embarrass each other and not be offended by a short “I'll call you back”.
5. Connect all communication methods. Going shopping? Send your beloved a photo report - let him rate and advise something. The more common things you have, the closer you are to each other.
6. Never part without discussing where and when the next meeting will take place, do not endure "dates" unless absolutely necessary, so as not to injure your partner.
7. Arrange surprises for each other. The almighty Internet will even help you organize a romantic dinner that you can share with your loved one via Skype. Turn on your imagination, trust each other and you will succeed!
