Not all men agree with a woman's desire to have offspring. There are a number of reasons why an adult independent man is afraid of having a small child, and they need to be sorted out.
Instructions
Step 1
The financial reason, or rather - the insufficient level of provision of funds in the opinion of the man. The lack of their own housing and car, a small salary - all this gives rise to the fear of being financially helpless and unable to provide for their own family. It is clear that this is due to the desire to give your child all the best. In this case, you need to convince him that the child will be a sufficient incentive to improve material well-being. And also give an example from your own life or people you know, because not all people are born in very wealthy families. This does not at all prevent them from growing up smart, capable or just good people.
Step 2
Another factor of fear is the lack of responsibility in their opinion. Not all men are morally ready to become fathers, some are overcome by doubts - whether they will be a good example for a child. This happens due to self-doubt or a feeling of unfulfillment. In this case, tell him that the child does not care who his father works or what kind of person he is. The child loves his parents from the moment of birth. Remind him of the feelings he had for his father in early childhood. Surely one of your man's vivid childhood memories was a joint trip to the park, fishing or the sea.
Step 3
Men are overcome by the fear of sharing their woman with someone else, incl. with baby. By their nature, representatives of the stronger sex are owners and subconsciously do not want to be given less attention. After all, after the birth of a child, the mother devotes all her time to him, and the man feels left out. This will normalize over time, but the fear of being left without female attention and affection scares the man. He may also be worried that after giving birth, the figure of the woman he loves will not be the same as before. In this case, he needs to promise that you will treat him as before, and soon after the birth of the child, take up your figure and quickly restore their former forms.
Step 4
Many men believe that with the birth of a child, a free life ends. There will be many responsibilities and no time for football, friends or hobbies. This is partly true, but try to present this fact from a different angle. You can go to football with your child, with pleasure explaining the course of the game to him, and at the same time get great satisfaction. You can spend your free time with friends and their children. And you can instill your love for a hobby in a child and do it together. In any case, the appearance of a little man in the house will bring much more positive emotions and benefits. From the point of view of a man, as a rational being, this will be the last straw for making the right decision.
