Poor school performance is the most common complaint about teenagers by parents and teachers. Psychologist's advice on how to behave as a parent to motivate your teenager to learn.
Find out the cause of school problems
Teenagers are usually accused of laziness and negligence, but there can be many reasons for failure - conflicts with teachers, conflicts with peers, unrequited love. It is important to understand the reason for the failure of the child, to show that you still love him and worry with him. To understand the reasons for poor academic performance, do not scold a teenager, but openly discuss his problems with him, find out what subjects he likes, what is difficult and what is interesting. Chat with school teachers, ask them to pay more attention to your child. If a child has a conflict with a teacher, do not remain an indifferent observer and do not rush to blame the teenager for everything. But at the same time, do not encourage teenagers to disrespect teachers. But in any case, the teenager should feel your love and willingness to come to the rescue in a difficult situation.
Encourage your teen to think about the future, the value of education
You cannot force knowledge into the head of a teenager. Without proper motivation and desire to study, transfer to a school with in-depth study of certain subjects and an appeal to a tutor is unlikely to bring results. Therefore, it is very important for parents to form the correct attitude in a teenager, encouraging him to think about the future, choosing a profession, studying, and a career. Discuss these opportunities with your teenager, and do not impose your opinion on who he should be. A teenager wants to become an adult faster, so discuss with him that this opens up not only new opportunities, but also implies responsibility for his future.
Do I check the lessons?
Control on your part should be: take an interest in school affairs, do not let everything take its course. Remind the teenager about the need to prepare homework, ask if he prepared the lessons, what grades he received in school, what he studied today, etc. But try to cultivate independence in him, and interfere as little as possible in the process of preparing the assignment.
If a teenager asks for help in solving a task, then do not decide for him, but think and look for the correct answer together with him, so that later he himself can cope with a similar task.
Try not to take unnecessarily a diary, notebooks of a teenager without his knowledge. At this age, the child is very painful to relate to the violation of his boundaries.
Let your teenage child know that you trust him and believe that he is able to succeed.
