When a child becomes a teenager, it is very important not to miss the moment and not move away from his child. How to bond with a teenager?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to maintain casual communication at all times. It is unlikely that it will be possible to persuade the child to go to a cafe with you, or to chat at a family dinner, so you can do something together, the girl can be asked to help in cooking, the boy can do male housework with his father. At such moments, it is easier to start casual conversations, it will look easy and natural, the teenager will not feel pressure from the parents, since at this age, children do not like to talk about their personal lives and in every possible way avoid interrogating their parents.
Step 2
Be genuinely interested in your child's hobbies. If this is a sport, be sure to come to cheer on competitions, music lessons, your own group, come to concerts, listen to the performance at home. Do not criticize or reject the interests of the teenager, no matter how strange and stupid they may seem to you. In adolescence, children become adults and start looking for themselves, trying everything new. If you do not share the interests of a teenager, he will not want to share his experiences, emotions with you, as he will be sure that you will not understand him.
Step 3
Many parents are sure that a heart-to-heart conversation in a quiet environment, eye to eye, can bring them closer to a teenager more than ever. But modern children do not share this opinion. Therefore, you will have to move with them and change outdated stereotypes. Write your child SMS messages with emoticons, master e-mail, register in at least one social network, where your child most often communicates with friends.
Step 4
Take seriously all the topics your teenager brings up in conversation. Do not ridicule or criticize what your child thinks the end of the world, and you will appreciate it as another stupidity. Show participation, facilitate, support the teenager with all his experiences, no matter how innocent and insignificant they may seem to you. Remember, a teenage child takes any criticism very painfully.
Step 5
Treat your teen's friends with respect and open interest, now friends occupy a very important place in his life, so do not criticize or ridicule anyone from your child's circle of acquaintances. This can make him angry and push him away.
