There comes a point in the life of a parent when a child grows up and starts asking questions about sex. To many, this topic seems difficult, but in vain. The calmer and freer you feel, the easier it will be for the child to figure it out.
Instructions
Step 1
To get started, pick books for your growing child about growth, hormonal changes in the body, sex, and other related topics. Look for books published in recent years in which these areas are highlighted from the standpoint of modern research and in which sex is not taboo, but is recognized as just as common a part of life as eating or sleeping.
The book is a reference point from which you can base your conversations about sex. On the one hand, it will be easier for a child to ask you clarifying questions based on the book. On the other hand, you yourself can ask the child which of the readings surprised or remembered the best, or what he would like to know more details about.
Step 2
When a teen or preteen asks you about sex, try not to roll your eyes or blush. After all, his interest is dictated, as a rule, by healthy curiosity. In addition, it is very valuable if the child came to you with these questions: it means that there is trust between you. With your embarrassment, you can scare the child away, make him understand that the topic is undesirable for discussion with you. And then with his questions he will go to friends or to the Internet.
To avoid embarrassment, educate yourself. Explore current research, read textbooks on sexology, find resources on the Internet that deal with sexuality (for example, Tatiana Nikonova's blog).
Step 3
When a teenager comes to you with a specific question about sex, try to answer that question accurately. For example, you don't need to answer the question "What is abortion?" start talking about how people met, how sex technically happened, how an unplanned pregnancy happened, etc. In the best case, the child simply will not understand you. At worst, he will be scared, embarrassed or disgusted - and will not bring up the topic of sex in your conversations, even if he has new questions.
