Many parents find it difficult to start a conversation about where children come from with their own offspring. It is necessary not only to find the right words and create a trusting atmosphere, but also to find the right moment for a conversation.
Instructions
Step 1
The main rule of talking about intimate relationships with children is not to whip up the atmosphere around the topic. If the parents specifically set the date and time for an important conversation, sit the child in front of them and begin an hour-long lecture, then the event will do more harm than good. It is important to remember that every child's interest in sex wakes up in due time. You should not rush things, however, you cannot hush up the topic for a long time. Therefore, the best reason for conversation will be the questions of a son or daughter who heard something unusual in kindergarten, school or in the yard. First of all, it is worth finding out the source of the baby's curiosity. If a baby asks what sex is, you can start a conversation with a counter question: "Where did you hear this word?" Depending on the answer and the degree of interest of the child, further communication needs to be built.
Step 2
Some adults believe that sex education is not necessary for their children before adolescence. In fact, attention to the intimate sphere is inherent even in three-four-year-olds. At this age, babies will have enough short and honest answers without unnecessary details. At this age, it is enough for them to learn that the child grows under the mother's heart and is born through a special hole in the lower abdomen. At the same time, children can be explained what their genitals are called, but it is not worth developing the topic of interaction between female and male genital organs.
Step 3
At the age of five or six, preschoolers may ask about a love scene seen on TV or the process of intercourse in animals. During this period, you can explain that what you see precedes conception, but not go into technical details. Due to the growing interest in the older groups of the kindergarten in their own and other people's genitals, it is important to clearly make it clear to the child that it is proper to cover them with clothes. It is good to add that related topics can be discussed not in public, but in a home circle. At this stage of sexuality education, short dialogues are enough for girls and boys.
Step 4
By the age of seven or nine, talking about the difference between street and decent vocabulary regarding sex becomes useful. At this age, there is a risk that the child will receive information about procreation from older friends, and it will be distorted. Therefore, with the help of books and drawings designed for younger students, parents should simply and easily tell about what happens during lovemaking. Sincere, calm conversation will prepare children for possible early emissions and menstruation, and to some extent protect from the influence of not too good company in this topic. If the child is embarrassed to start a conversation, it is better to unobtrusively provoke it by discussing acquaintances who are pregnant or newlyweds.
Step 5
At the age of 10-12, conversations about sex already include a persistent belief that it is pleasant and useful for adults with a formed body to do it. Teens also need information about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases. This will not inflame the child's curiosity, if you submit information calmly, but it will prepare you for the idea of the responsibility of an intimate relationship with a loved one.
Step 6
Older adolescents, if the previous stages of sex education have been passed adequately, are no longer afraid of the topic of sex in communication with parents. However, you should not omit it. It is important from time to time to discuss the issues of unwanted pregnancy and its consequences for young people, the problem of AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases, and finally, the topic of violence and forced sex. All this will help protect an almost adult person from mistakes when starting a sex life.
