The fear of denying someone reciprocity can make you make concessions against your own desires. If you do not say “no” in time, you risk becoming a puppet in the hands of someone who is unpleasant or uninteresting to you.
Instructions
Step 1
It is very difficult to always say yes, especially when it comes to personal life. Let's say you have to choose one of several fans. In any case, you will refuse to some of them. Unfortunately, it is unlikely that the one who was refused will be able to easily relate to the situation, however, it is in your power to conduct this conversation with dignity. Your "no" should be firm and unyielding, so first say this word to your reflection in the mirror, and only then to your real interlocutor.
Step 2
Be sure to give reasons for your refusal. Do not sprinkle with a long and incoherent set of words, it is better to think over a laconic, but at the same time succinct answer. Speak concretely, without vague phrases like “you yourself (s) understand everything perfectly” or “we already talked about this once”, “in my opinion, everything is clear anyway”, etc. Respect the person you refuse, as you yourself can easily find yourself in his position.
Step 3
Be honest. Slyness, cheap acting, and ambiguous sentences in this conversation are completely inappropriate. They clearly will not lead to a constructive conversation and can only exacerbate the situation. Have you got another one? So tell me about it. Looking for a break from a serious relationship? Be sincere. Do not lie that you want to “be alone (alone) for a while,” and in the evening go to a party with your new companion (s).
Step 4
To sweeten the bitterness of rejection, start it with a compliment or just nice words. In this case, it all depends on the context of the situation. For example, to a stranger who is too persistent, say "You are so confident that my refusal should not disappoint you too much." And a conversation with a former lover, feelings for whom have long cooled down, start with words of gratitude for the time spent together earlier. In other possible cases, you can say something like the following: "You are an amazingly sensitive and gentle person, but I'm afraid you and I are not on our way."
