Many girls dream of finding the man of their dreams. It's not that hard. All it takes is four simple steps.
Before you go in search of the man of your dreams, it's worth understanding one fact. Let's call it the principle of reality. It sounds like this: there are no ideal men. If you want a real alpha male, then you must understand that he is unlikely to be gentle and affectionate. There are no tame alpha males. As there are no rich entrepreneurs who scribble SMS messages to their girlfriend every minute and are ready to spend every minute with her. No, choose either a successful business or whole days of spending time together.
So, when we have learned this difficult truth, it's time to move on to the steps.
Step one. Determining the qualities of a man of dreams
You say "Dream Man". What do you mean by that? Write down at least ten qualities that you want to see in your soul mate. It can be kindness, intellectuality, generosity, a sense of humor, passion … Most importantly, do not forget about the principle of reality!
Here you can also write the values that the man of dreams should have. For example, family, development, financial stability, health care.
It is also important to write those qualities that you will never, under any circumstances, tolerate. For example, arrogance, greed, aggressiveness, disrespectful attitude.
After you have done this, you can proceed to the next step.
Step two. Determining the habitat of the man of dreams
You have already imagined the man of your dreams. Now you need to understand where you can intersect with him. If you have Health Care as one of the required qualities, you may meet the man of your dreams in the fitness room or in the park for a run. Those who are keen on self-development can be found at various trainings. And if you have roughly decided on the range of professions of the man of your dreams, then you can search for it on the Internet in specialized forums.
Disadvantages of this step: You have to get out of your comfort zone and visit places that you don't. Pros: Your life will become much more interesting. And, perhaps, you will meet the man of your dreams!
Step three. Meet the man of dreams
The most difficult step is acquaintance! Do you think that in order for men to get to know you, you need to have an unearthly beauty? Not at all. The main thing is kindness and a smile. Many men are afraid to approach girls. If you are friendly and open to communication, you will have a better chance of dating. And, please, forget about inaccessibility, it often scares away. Few men like to take on impregnable fortresses.
So, the man spoke to you. We include in full benevolence and originality. Remember, many men find it difficult to start conversations, so they should be encouraged. Smile or original answers. Life hack: if you end the answer with a question, awkward pauses can be avoided.
Do not forget that you yourself can initiate an acquaintance. One of the best ways is to ask for help. Or find common interests: perhaps his T-shirt has a print with your favorite band. This is a great opportunity to strike up a conversation!
Step four. Testing the man of your dreams
You met a man, and communication goes nowhere better? Excellent. But remember, the first days (and even weeks) after meeting is a test drive of a man. Listen to yourself: how are you with him. Is it comfortable? Can you be by your side? After communicating with him, do you feel full or, on the contrary, empty? This step is very important. If you notice that you most often feel bad with a man, or you do not like the way he eats, or maybe he ignores your desires, prioritizing only his own - remember, these may be the first bells that you come across at all not the man of your dreams.
And finally, one more piece of advice: do not rush into relationships as in the sea - with a running start, plunging into them headlong. Enter them carefully, approach each other slowly. Be first friends, then in love, live a few quarrels together. Let your relationship unfold like a flower. Then you will have a better chance to understand whether the man of your dreams is really in front of you, and to see in your partner a real person with his multifaceted character. And this is the key to a happy relationship.
