Love is the greatest feeling that philosophers talk about, poets compose poems, and musicians sing songs. A person in love is a priori happy, because there is nothing more beautiful than looking into the eyes of a person who is loved by you and loves you. But sometimes love captures the heart so much that you simply cannot exist without a person, since you are madly attached to him. It seems that there is no way out of this trap, but there is always a way out. So how can you love without attachment?
Instructions
Step 1
To get rid of attachment to a loved one, psychologists advise to imagine your life without an object of adoration. Of course, the picture before you will appear sad, and you are unlikely to want such a life for yourself. Firstly, if a loved one, to whom you are attached, disappears from your life, then you will be completely disoriented and will not be able to solve even a simple everyday problem. Secondly, you will be seized by immeasurable sadness, because there will be no one to give all your warmth and love. Modeling a similar situation with the disappearance of a loved one will help you to free yourself from attachment to him and realize that you are also a full-fledged person.
Step 2
After you imagine this situation, remember how you used to live without a loved one. You had to solve problems yourself, and you solved them. And do you really have no one else to give your love? You have loved ones who miss you, worry about you, so do not leave them without your love.
Step 3
Don't lose touch with your friends. Having people with whom you can always meet and talk, spend your free time, is very useful. There is an opinion that appearing in a company without your soul mate is bad form. In fact, this is complete nonsense - after all, in this way you kill the personality in yourself. Make it a rule to meet your friends alone at least once a week. The same is recommended for your loved one: it is also useful for him to unwind and have a heart-to-heart talk with people close to him. Trust me, you will feel much better. Plus, you can find more topics for conversation and discussion with your loved one.
Step 4
Pick a hobby for yourself. Dedicating yourself to any business, you develop your horizons and, in parallel, get carried away, and new hobbies always free you from old ones. Do, for example, handicrafts, beading, reading books, drawing. Having found a pleasant occupation for yourself, you will not even notice how attachment to a person leaves you.
Step 5
If your attachment is so great that you simply cannot think of anything but a loved one, and you are always afraid that without him you will lose the meaning of life, then the most correct solution to the problem would be to contact a qualified psychologist.
